Disrespectfully - The Things We Should Have Said | Episode 20

Episode 20.

Carded, it's all downhill. from there. You get kicked off your parents health insurance. Oh, yeah, at 26 You got to get your own health insurance.

Daunting. see, I could never relate to that, because my parents didn't have health insurance and we were broke. but people, yes, okay.

I understand. I remember that one and it's all thinking, you know, everything. truly big age right there.

Welcome to, disrespectfully with Katie Maloney and Dana Cathan.

Unapologetically, we're here to do what we want to do spilling the tea, babe, You're gonna see the power of women like disrespectfully. Anyway, how are you? I'm really tired right now. I'm too. Are you tired?

Are you? well, I was so worried about beating you here because something about her soft opening when people never beat me. What do you thought? I'm here before you every day? I'm sorry.

That's what I meant. Like. oh you, you always beat me. That's what I want to say. Sorry, I'm serious with me.

I always. I am here on time to the minute, everyday recording, and then it's always just like a fun journey to see when Katie Gets here, but I'm consistently 15.. Yes. I'd say it's 18, 15 minutes. Yeah, so it's like I come in, I get my coffee, I relax and meditate a little bit, but I I woke up late because I was so tired because I went down a an insane clown posse deep dive last night as.

We all do at night, laying in bed, we're like what's insane clown posse doing?

I wanted to know more about their origin and, just like I really I got, I got fed a girl who is putting on the like.

the Jigglypuff. Jigglypuff people. no, Jigglypuff. No, Jigglypuff are different. Jigglypuff are male.

I'm basing this off the Rob Schneider movie. do Spigolo male Jigglypuff, and I feel like he was a hooker, Yeah, or sex worker, I'm sorry, I don't know.

Whatever, Jiggle Juggalos. Oh.

Okay, same clown, posse stanza. Well, and I think, yeah, I think the ladies are jug lets like they. they, they gender them, Which you know, you know, I don't like a CEO, but I like a jug let.

Okay. So what was she to choose putting on the makeup?

Yeah to one of their songs and I realized I hadn't heard a lot of their music before, like I was. It was one of their bigger songs. I'd heard it and she was just like. so I just went into the origins of ICP Gathering, do you know the gathering is? Yeah.

What is their big song? I can like kind of hear it in my head.

It's um, Leia looked like she was just about to spit a fact about ICP. Do you want to put it? Are you like a? Low-key jug? let for anyone who's doesn't know what insane clown posse is, I'm sure you've at least seen their makeup, and like they're, they're like a hip-hop band that the origins of it, Basically from what I had looked up, were.

So I didn't know that. Okay, it's known as horror core, horror core. Yeah, what is their song, though? Even like? then I'm looking at the the names of their song, and none of them are like this one.

I feel like I knew right away. So the gathering. what is your understanding of the gathering? because I had never heard of it.

Okay, well, it's been a while since I've done any kind of. are you a juggler? No, no, but it's since I've like. but there was a time, I don't know. I've been there, though, where I've just like, been down, like so I'm like weird, a whole of that, and so there was a time Where I was just like this.

Okay, so the gathering is basically where they all they once a year. I don't know if it moves cities or whatever, But they all come together. Yeah, and it's there. it's like their renaissance. fair, if you will.

Twisted. I thought it was just like. so it's a festival, but I don't know if it was like. they put on the festival or they just like. I don't know if it was like Insane or if it was just they're like.

There's one other group that are like the main ones and there's other in that genre, But they had. the things that they listed were so crazy to me I could not. I was on this Tick-tock for an hour like going through, and then I was like my entire algorithms and your algorithm is r.i.p It's your RIP, which goes with the horror core. So I guess that makes sense, but it honestly sounded really cool. However, these people basically what they said is some of the nicest people you've ever met.

About Burning Man and I'm like, yeah, that sounds cool. But like this also sounds cooler.

Imagine next time someone says to you if you're in a Burning Man, you're like, have you ever said the guy? Have you been to the gathering bitch?

Yeah, I feel like I might vibe more with the juggalos than I would with the Burning Man folk, also the makeup I did this year.

For Halloween. that was just funsies was actually jug let coded. Do you remember that? I did it and watched scary movies by my soul with Raleigh at my house.

Let me show you looks like it's June 7th through 9. where am I looking at the right thing? The gathering, the gathering. I don't understand Roman numerals six, eleven. Oh, right.

So, if you can see some look, I thought it was like a filter or something. No, this is makeup that I did on myself just for fun. Oh, that's great. And this is basically what the bitches wear. So I was like, okay, I already have the makeup down.

Insane not me at the gathering, not us at the gathering.

Here's the thing. the 24th gathering of the juggalos will take place August. Oh, what 14th is 17th, Ohio, right? Cuz it. here's the thing.

Well, you know if it's gonna okay, if it's where I think it might be. like Eleanor, you can't like, come and go from there, You like, have to like camp there, cuz that's where they used to have, like lightning and bottle and like anyway. But um, I'm, you know, I'm very interested in the culture. I'm interested in the culture. if you have any stories, if you're a juggalo, juggalette, please write in and please write in and.

Educate because we want to know. well, especially for hometown heroes. I bet they have stories. So, like cuz, like some of the people, they were like interviewing different people and they just were telling their random stories and they just seemed like I don't know like to your point I.

Think there are kind of people. I want to like. I want to know. they're like origin story. They're like gateway, Like how did you get into it?

Well, even after how long even this guy yeah, Like how exactly like she was she. all of her hashtags were like goth, goth, goth, and then it was like the insane clown posse. So that's where I just started clicking from. I should find her and DM her and just be like what happened. People are so fanatical about it.

They do. people just dabble like. could we dabble or do we have to be like fully? No, I think we have to fully do it.

We might come here dressed as clowns next week, Lay out, depending on what happens. we'll see. lay is gonna go on maternity leave and come back, and we're gonna walk in and be juglets.

Yeah, maybe not this year, because that's like very serious and I've got a lot going on right now. But I would like to put up on the list. the short list, maybe. okay, it's on the short list.

I mean, I didn't think we'd start our 20th episode with the insane clown posse, but you never know what you're gonna get.

No deranged chocolate, something else that I saw that you posted, that I wanted to ask you about, because it's something that we all do, That we don't really talk about, but it is something that women do, and I think men might be perplexed about it. But I'm curious if we all share the same experience in this. one Reposted, and she was very much going on like a very. it was a joke mostly, but okay, She was talking about everything showers, But I just started talking about everything, or started thinking about everything showers just in general, because it's not something that we talked about.

But we all know what it is. We all know what it is. all have theirs down pat, but apparently men don't know what an everything shower is.

Yeah, because men barely wash. They've never even washed their ass car. They barely wash their ass. I didn't know they separate.

They didn't know they could get in there. That's why they're like everything shower.

I know I remember like sometimes being like. do you even use like soap when you're in there? Like you're in there for not enough time to like, really get a lather going. No, their soap looks like a tic-tac.

That's like help me. I need you to kill me. That's like an old bar that they then weld to the next bar of soap. They use two bars of soap a year.

It's like the rubber band ball equivalent of soap, and it's just, but also like they have, like their their bottles. It's like the twelve-in-one toothpaste.

Yeah, dude bros, clean. Yeah.

Hyper masculinity of the labels of these they don't even want to make. it sound like this is gonna make you clean like Gasoline wash bro. Like this is gonna make you smell like turpentine.

They want it to be easily confused with a bottle of Clorox, if it's very close to a bottle of Clorox. They've done their job. That's what they think.

This is fresh lawn, like you just mowed sweat and fresh cut grass, Like just put, like wash your balls with it. Just admit you want to kiss each other again.

Like you guys go so far into this masculinity, trying to prove. just say you want to kiss and wash your asshole. Yeah, how hard is that?

well, at the end of the day, if you're gonna be smelling like that, you're only gonna be able to kiss each other. because So I understand the confusion of an everything shower. when they take a hardly nothing shower, They rinse. even our rinses are still like there's a lot going on to it. flaps are open, We're still getting into every crevice and crack with.

Is this an offensive term, a whore's bath? It might be, I don't know, but I love to you, It's just. it's basically so supposed to be back of the day like a whore's bath, as they've watched wash their privates and their underarms. but like I feel like men always take a whore's bath, like they go in the shower and they just Lift their arm and go like this, with water and their face, and then they're out. I mean, listen, I've, we've.

Equivalence of that where you know, you can't get to the shower, So you have to like use like wipes to like get your underarms and then which way and then like perfume.

I think the point, though, is like our worst shower is their best. So, and everything shower would be like a fucking a Rubik's Cube to them, and everything shower would be them getting.

Reborn, essentially like, literally like they would probably never feel cleaner in their lives. They haven't been that clean since their mom put them in the sink and hosed them down Their first bath ever, you know, they have a picture of the last time they had an everything shower. It was their first bath ever. They had a placenta schmear. It was their mom putting them in the sink, being first bath ever.

I would say like I am trying to be better about them, cuz like I am Honestly not really sexually active at the moment and like not dating. So it's easy for your legs to be able to be braided when you aren't like seeing anyone, and it does feel so good just To have an everything shower. So I definitely feel like I try to do it every other week. But if I'm what? also if I'm yeah, how often you do it?

Oh, Like twice a week. Oh, no, I love, see, I'm see. Okay, this is. this is what's interesting, because I was curious, like how often people take their everything shower.

Well, also, maybe maybe I'm in the wrong for that, but I like. I was saying, but if I'm seeing someone, it's usually happening more Often, correct, but so like, yeah, I would say like once a week would be fair, But yeah, every other week, because also for me, I don't you what do you wash your hair every day? No, okay.

Let's how many. let's just break down like what in everything a shower even is, because it might be different for other people. Okay, the basics are gonna be where you wash your hair Condition, your hair. you're gonna at least shave Your legs and whatever else you may be or need to shave. maybe some exfoliation is involved, But it's gonna be like a full body, like shave, and a full hair wash condition.

So I think that there are like elements that happen after the everything shower that I include in the everything shower. It's like that's what I is under my everything shower umbrella. but once you get out of it, everything shower, like if you Slipped on some water, you'd go like an alluge because you should feel that soft like that is my goal of my everything shower. So mine includes shampoo conditioner, because I only wash my hair every like five days exfoliation before my shave. So full body exfoliation I shave.

That's when you got a time it, because the hair mask needs to sit on the hair for at least like three to five minutes.

We need the five minutes. so then I do my all my body stuff and like my shave, and then I Start with the cleansing balm and then do my, which I do pretty much every night. So that doesn't really count. So then, when I get out now are we? it depends, am I doing a self tanner or not?

Well, because I have shorter hair now and I use a lot more product in my hair, I have to wash my hair a little more for them. I do it like maybe like twice a week, not not too much because, but I will like rinse My hair like pretty thoroughly just to try to get at least some of the What's left over in my hair, just so I can start semi fresh every day, but mine will be somewhat similar. Definitely trying to do some kind of like real, intense exfoliation. It's so important to exfoliate. You've so much dead, gross skin That you're just like leaving behind in your bed and everywhere that like, I try to like get a good buff all over my body, more than Once a week, twice a week, I would say, and then I'll use like a good, like shaving balm or Something to help just get a nice move.

Yeah, but it takes forever to perfect what works for you, though, and it is a timing thing. And again men.

eating like Everything, like arms back. Yes, that's what takes. chest, stomach, ass, She. you know, you want to get your ass sex. Yes, as a statement, you know to me, and like everything, feet bottom of the feet.

No, and that's what takes the big. that's the biggest time commitment, I think the whole process for me is like exfoliating. so I think universally, when women say everything showered, That's mostly what they're talking about is like a shave exfoliate and a hair wash is all included in that in some way mm-hmm, whereas men are like.

towel, they're everything. shower brush their everything. shower would include just maybe Rubbing a little bit of shampoo over the very top of their head. I don't know. I've watched men shower and it's just it is.

One thing there's rarely soap in the mouth. Oh, I'm like, are you done? Why are you done? They're like, what do you mean? I'm like, hmm.

It'll turn you off for days. Anyway, but I don't know. I mean, I wonder if I knew if anyone has like anything like really wild or interesting that you do and you're everything shower.

And that's also, I feel like I miss saying in my everything shower, because it's my everyday shower is washing every single surface.

Yeah, every day shower. So don't. oh, yeah, I got. I got two different loofahs. I got one that's like get.

I'm not a loofah gal, but then I use a mitt that has an exfoliating like. I have one of those two. I have on it.

I have probably five different exfoliation apparatus is like whether it's Actual, like, you know, like the dossier body polish, or it's some type of like tool, Some kind of cloth mitt loofah brush, some type of thing.

well. and then also it's always so funny to me when men are like, because if you're with a woman and she touches your skin, she Knows why it's so soft, and a man's like, oh, your skin is so soft. You're like, yeah, that's not an accident That didn't come from, I didn't pray about it. And then my I woke up with the smoothest skin You've ever felt in your life. This is very intentional, sir.

Also, I have like three different types of body washes. I have like four different types of shampoos and conditioners.

It is I'm a product or you're a product person, I'm not. I use dr Bronner's that like really really minty soap. That is what I use for my body wash like, and it's gender-neutral, so anyone can use it at my home And it's kind of no one's using it, but yeah, I'm I and I love it.

I think you think some man's gonna come in there and use your body wash ain't using watch?

Well, that's what I'm saying, but it maybe maybe we'll teach him a thing or two, but I'm like, yeah, I like my one shampoo, my conditioner, my one, That, my one, everything, and I do switch between them because it helps your. I've sometimes want to be that girl That can just have. you are a stuff person. I know you have lots of things in every category in your apartment.

I know, whatever I am, who I am, you are. your bathroom looks like Sephora.

But that's why I like going there and doing a new like whoo.

Anyway, yeah, shout out to everything. showers. You're the best.

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It's just like when I was on Twitter, I'm a great reader. I have something else. I do tell me I have like dissertations in the shower, Fighting with people. Yeah, I have spread practice speeches. I practice everything I should have said in conversations, things.

Impassioned conversations. Do you talk to yourself loud? Yeah. Yeah, I do, and people are like, oh, that's crazy, And I'm like, I don't know I play the characters. Perhaps I should have been an actor, because I do both sides and like I can't, so you need to hear it out loud.

But oh no, only inside my own place or in the car. I will say things out loud, but I'm in my car. I'm like, they probably just think I'm talking on the phone. That's fine. Yeah, that also.

I love the things I should have said. Do you know what else? you just flagged my memory. by the way? I heard something quick sidebar that your brain cannot differentiate between a real conversation that happened and the ones that you're making up in your Head, so your my brain thinks it's warfare.

Cortisol in your life. So I'm just like remembering things differently. No, no, no.

No, wait, it's. it's basically what actually happened happened. But then, if you go and think of like, okay, What if I had said this and then they had said that or whatever? your brain cannot discern which one of those is made up. So it just like, collects all that information.

Data and assumes it all happened. I mean, I don't know. I've pretty much remember exactly what happened.

Okay, if there are any neuro physicists out there, listening to this time needs to pass Girl, I don't have a degree in that department. I mean what I'm saying is it was interesting to me and I was like, oh.

Yeah, but I still pretty much remember with the actual reality.

No, I do too, but it's saying your subconscious brain can't differentiate the two. Well, my subconscious brain is a wild place in general.

Yeah, it likes to play tricks on me while I'm asleep. sleep, paralysis, demon, with it's everything shower. It just comes out all my dreams.

Wait, I need to tell you one more horrifying thing that happened to me the other day. Well, I don't think I told you about this. So I have the other thing that is always in my shower is my toy cleaner. a hundred percent of the time It's where it's lives, because when I wash my different, various things in terms of like vibrators, whatever I do it in my sink. So I just reach for the toy cleaner there and I forget that it's there Until someone else is in my apartment and like clocks it because it looks like there's like green tea leaves on.

It's hygiene at the end of the day.

It's just not something I would want them to see or like think about when they think about my shower. But yeah, so if you have toy cleaner, be careful with before you're taking wholesome photos in it. I mean, that's awful, isn't it? It's awful. I personally think it could be worse.

Have you said something worse to a family group chat?

My biggest fear is sending a nude to a family group chat and or co-worker at my alien arm fear. That's a big alien arm fear.

Like accidentally posting something to Instagram. Oh, like putting it like, just because you know how. like when you swipe to the left and then it's like your stories pop up. Just it only would take, like a few Accidental taps if, like you recently screenshot or took in a photo or and I'm saying like it has to be, like Inappropriate or like a new, but just something you would not share, want to share with the world. and the thing is, you cannot Delete it fast enough, before enough.

Well, and now I think it's updated that you can delete it while it's loading, But you know how. before it was like you have to wait for it to fully upload. I once posted a very raunchy nude to my story and what had happened was Instagram. I had just updated it and it did a shift. where then they think they undid it after that because people would you know your Finger would just post Mm-hmm.

We know that the prank people play on you and they're like the stupid chain mail thing when it's like. Oh, why did you mean to post? you mean to post that to your story? Don't do that to me, because that's a fear of mine. the same way, with the voice note to text thing, This is the other one.

Okay, send a nude to your family group chat or send a screenshot to someone that you're talking shit about, and it's about them.

Send a screenshot to someone and spot them, because I've done that before. But I could, I? I would rather. I don't think there's anything Super awful that I would say behind. since I wouldn't say it to their face.

Well, no, I I'm a hundred percent. that way too, but it's still like it's. it's just awful Like it's. you don't want it. I'm not saying I would enjoy it.

Yeah,

It's like, even if you would say to them and you're comfortable saying that, or even if you have, and they know you've said it, It's still like I'm having a moment where I'm venting with my friend, which we all fucking do, but like, yeah, It's a horrible feeling. Have you ever? Sent a like nude to someone that you meant to send to someone else or on? No, okay.

No, I'm. let's keep that way. I'm. no, That's never pretty selective about that.

Welcome wood. Okay. So again, 20th episode, insane clown posse everything showers nudes on.

When this episode air. so Wednesday today is the official day that something about her is open.

That's what I was gonna say. That's what I thought we were gonna open with, but we I know we found our way here.

Listen, I, we were gonna get to it at some point. tell us about it. How are you feeling about it? What, what's the bit? I feel really good because it's been such a long time coming in.

It was very cute seeing it, especially with the music on like it. that just felt obvious. that was before the Soft opening or whatever even, and there's just so much detail that's gone into it. I'm so excited for you guys, and particularly for everyone out there who is being an annoying conspiracy theorist, like. it's a very satisfying feeling, I imagine, but I So far have tried the is the Kate, the vegan tuna one.

We named the sandwiches after just iconic leading ladies, you know I mean the whole like thing we loved, like Nancy Meyers and rom-com. So we want you know, the whole theme of it, to feel like you're in a very cozy, you know Setting all I like in Nancy Meyers movies. It's belts on themed to name it after you know, Not just people Nancy Meyers movies, but just iconic leading ladies that we have looked up to. so yeah, We have. the Meg is delicious.

No, I was full by the time, and that's what I was asking. Okay, well then, that's what I will be getting next time I go in. also important to note. There's wine there. Oh, yeah.

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Like that as well. Yeah, so proud of you guys. So so I mean I feel like opening day is gonna be In chaos, but it will be super excited. I'm super excited to see how everything goes and I know you guys are still getting your flow, as with any new business. So I'm just excited for you to get through the first few weeks of craziness and then have everything on autopilot.

I'd love to see it and we can't wait to introduce some like new, Exciting, like elements like we want to do like a tea service, For sure, and then we're gonna be doing cocktail, wine based cocktails. We're gonna do like a spicy wine based margarita, and we'll be kind of introducing new ones each month. And you know, definitely like, want to have sandwich that specials, to like, be able, to, you know, Try out new ideas and just get some good feedback and I don't know, keep it fresh, keep it exciting. Yeah, it's just been such a long time coming and it's just. I've just been waiting to get to this point for so long.

Those are very happy things. Mm-hmm. I need to switch to some anger. What's wrong? Well, first of all, I already told you can't wait to get to basement.

Why is he so threatened by the bear?

one more time for the cheap seats in the back, we are not talking about men cheating on us or Gaslighting us or whatever. We're talking about getting murdered you, this person is.

We're. first of all, we're comparing you to the bear. Why are you trying to compare us to the bear? We are not the bear. We're not the bear, bro.

Who might also, who's the deer? the fact that you, just like they've missed the mark so much now.

You're just throwing in other woodland creatures.

Okay, like what about the squirrels? Yeah, we haven't even talked about the Fox. How dare you? I'm like, sir. What are you talking about?

Just my favorite one was the deer one, I don't want to explain my relationship to the deer.

Well, I'm calling dateline and you might have to because something you know, why do you have a relationship with the deer, sir? You're not Cinderella. You are not Snow White. This isn't a good look for you.

I'm just confused. Why? why it turned into like, okay, so you do you want to marry the bear? So, like you, I'm just. I'm just so confused what he's talking about?

Sir, we don't think we could beat a bear. We don't think we could take one on. what we're saying Is the bear will either kill us or it won't. it'll go about its day a man. There's a million options.

But the way that certain do you know what the bears not gonna do? bear splain to us?

I.

Go on some weird fucking diatribe that makes no sense, just to try to be right about something that he doesn't even understand. My guy, if you don't get it, just say you don't get it and move along. Go, I don't know. hit your head on something, not bear splain.

I'm gonna be laughing about that later. That's what I like. I should respond back and be like. don't bear splain to me.

Yeah, do you know? the bears not gonna do? I don't know. Try to sit and let's make me listen to, like him, explain cinema to me.

It's too soon, Katie, okay, Specifically, it's been too soon. Good God, you know what the bears not gonna do. Well, keep texting me after I've blocked them in talk to themselves in their DMS and their text messages. I wouldn't be mad.

Have you seen? or be movement, by the way, it started in Korea because women are fed up with just only being Purposeful in life, apparently in their culture and society, to just be married and have kids and pump up, You know, and it started with. initially this like shifted against the whole beauty standard That was being so heavily propagated to them, and then now they're just like they're like moving Swift and hard against not wanting to get married, not wanting to have kids, that they're just like going so hard in the celibacy Department. and it's now spread.

Worldwide and because of that, no, that's yeah, thank you for explaining. Did you see the ads that bumble the billboards that bumble put up? who? Who decided that? not a bear.

I could probably beat that guy. Oh, yeah, me put me in the woods with him. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, this guy.

He's, I can. I can already picture his body, stature. I. So these billboards are like Celibacy. a vow of celibacy isn't the option, isn't the answer, isn't.

Why are you making decisions about women with it? What women do with their bodies? Sorry,

So no, there was. there was a bunch of them. bumble his, since I actually think they had a pretty good response to it. They were like they took him down. They're like we realize now the air in our ways in in we have those billboards for an amount of time.

He didn't try to like double down or explain or justify or make excuses. They just were like. that was fucking lame. and here's how we're gonna crack look, ladies.

The more that we and I know there's gentlemen listening to, but this is just specifically to the girls out there The more we have control of our bodies and we resist the patriarchy, the angrier that they're getting, the more nervous they're getting, the more that they're trying to gonna make you feel bad about it and make you feel like that's only what your value really is. and all of us have looked around like the Disproportion of sweat equity that women have to put into having children. like we've talked about this before, We're just a lot of us are over it. We're like, yeah, I'm not gonna be taking the brunt of all that on, and obviously there's wonderful things that come out of that, and Joy and love and so much, so much good, but also we're just not really interested in the status quo anymore of what that looks like of when you get married and have kids and just like. No, we're.

we just. all we're asking for is equality. the world's on fire. the state of everything right now is scary and It just feels like.

No, what's my catchphrase? It's about the world being on fire. The world is on fire. Yeah, we're on a rock floating through space. Yeah, the rock is on fire.

But nothing really matters. Climbing just coming for all of our asses. So and so like nothing matters. I mean you can place as much value on things as you really want, but in the day like.

live your life, live your dreams, and if something is Not consistently making you not feel good. Like I'm honestly celibate at the moment and not dating because it just until something comes in my life and Knocks me on my ass and Blows me away then it's just like I have not one more room for a little bit of a dopamine hit. if something that makes me feel good And that someone who's unavailable makes me feel bad and you know what? I mean? I just like, yeah, I'm and the.

Correct. Yeah, I'm all. I'm very into peace. I am in a new phase. I'm in my blocking era.

Having to think about it. Well, I think when people are resistant to it, I feel like sometimes it's because they're worried about how they'll be perceived if they're blocking someone Where's like. I don't care if someone thinks I'm petty or whatever. It's typically not a petty thing for me. It's a protective mechanism, because if something is just allowing free access, It's gonna make it harder for me to put it out of my mind.

well, when you shift the focus and you realize like it's removing access is also removing the Exposure to what any of their opinions or thoughts or feelings? Towards you are whatsoever or I mean anyone else but like. but that's kind of the point of it, too.

Totally I think I've. I've known peace for the first time in my life because I've also done a way outside of dating, just like done the work on myself, and I'm truly happy, but I have De-centered men in such a big way. I've never known such peace in my life and it's fantastic. highly recommend, by the way.

We love men. I think we have to remind people. It's not, though. Truly. We're not The sand wrist over here, like we do.

Running amok. Well, I share said I love men. I think men are the coolest. They are the coolest, but they're not really necessary to live. I'm like that is just the flow.

I'm trying to break a cycle. guys. Okay, like, give me a break. So it's not about, yeah, being a man here, anything that I'm Trying to break a cycle. So let me do my fucking thing.

I'm very proud of that. And also there's a lot of people listening that are in very happy.

Relationships and marriages and like we love that for every try to get on your fucking level. So, like glad it worked out for you and you don't have to go through that hell that we're going through. Congrats, you don't know what it's like. I.

Well, all I know is that if the worst thing that ever happens to me for the rest of my life Is that I don't find the love of my life, then, like I've lived a really good life, I'd rather do that than have one more situationship. I'm literally done. It will never happen again.

That little thing is if I would rather do whatever I want whenever I want, and hang out with people that I enjoy and we can Travel, go see the world, just like, fill my days of the things. I love to do and enjoy so much, then put up with somebody's bullshit, someone who doesn't respect me, someone who wastes my time, who someone who just looks at me like I'm some kind of Convenient little like, whatever the fuck like. I'm not bad to anyone and I know that. so I will just keep Having the best time ever. Well, no problem, I'm not trying to fill a position in my life, So you gotta, you gotta please your case to me if you want to.

Roll with this. Well, again, I'm like not trying to be Alarmist, but like the earth really is coming to an end. So I just don't care. I'm a little bit like I'm spending every single second. I have left here very happy, very fulfilled, and I'm just not letting.

What do? we will be like great gardens if we have to you, you and I literally. but also there are worse things in the world. I just think I'm not saying it's a bad. I'm just saying like at the end days, not like I'm gonna be alone.

I've just lived along alone for some long, so long. I really Treasure that too. So, also in terms of someone coming in my life, like, you're also in my personal space and Fucking. with that. She, you have to be really special.

Oh, Like, I'm just like. not for me. No, I'd rather eat a sleeping bag. Hmm. We're on a sleeping bags now.

Yeah, I threw all the mattress.

Full mattress queen-size. Okay, great. I'll take that on if you want to share. Oh, I just was. I was about to say something and then I forgot girl.

Wish I could remember that one specific podcast. I got kicked off of YouTube. That's like the kind of people I'm talking about. they're like, so scary and so toxic, and they they cater to like the in-cell crowd and.

I was really scary shit. I mean, I don't know. I don't. it's like top love or something. I don't pay them any.

Mind, I'm just gonna Google right now. It's toxic male, And see if it the title comes up. I don't know. It's Andrew Tate's of the world. Yes, it's that.

Talk about like high-value men and high-value women, like shut the fuck up. Like what do you know about any of that?

Yes, exactly. It's those kinds of people. Well, can we just move on to the basement? Yeah, well, I have to do and I have been chomping at the bit. number one honestly relates pretty much to what we were just discussing.

Like. I know you're talking about. Okay. I saw this. He is a.

Radical, Religious person. He gave a commencement speech to a room full of people that had just graduated college. First of all was going on. He's like speaking to the men. right now There there's a war on masculinity, like he's gonna pop out with a podcast in five minutes.

Isn't that psychotic and upsetting who claims this man? I don't see, like many women running around embarrassing our, You know, species. Do you know what he looked like?

What he looked exactly how you think you look to by the way, he just a toe. Yeah, with a beard, He, he looks. yeah, he looks like he. I'd be curious of his whereabouts on January 6, 2021. that's how he fucking look.

Um, I saw that as well.

So, in general, if you are a parent bringing your baby to a fucking festival, especially EDC or anything like that, You that leave your baby home. Also, if you have $300, like they're like pay $100 an hour, three-hour minimum during the day. get a babysitter that and leave the baby at Home disgusting. I hope that's like a hoax. But if it's not, yeah, basement, what the hell.

Perhaps you're not ready. I don't know. like I don't, I don't, hmm.

And I don't know who's in your basement. I haven't had time to think about a basement. Harrison in half and you can have half And I can. yeah, I would love to him. we can become kickers and kick him down the yeah.

I would love to take half of that Neanderthal and put him in the basement. Okay, we'll share that's in that. Yeah, no, I caught a clip of that and I had to turn it off. I don't, I can't, I can't even listen to. I'm it.

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Hometown, hometown heroes. Jamie says hi, there. I own a small bagel shop and every Wednesday I listen to Disrespectfully while I roll hundreds of bagels. Yeah, you know, I got so hungry, But it's one of my favorite carbs. this week's episode made me fucking gasp, as I recalled a moment in my 20s Where I went home with a guy I met at a bar.

Never seen it. Oh, yeah, really I've won my whole life. Have you I?

mean, I don't know. I don't think it was a micro, but it was.

We've talked about. let's move. You don't need to be girth, master. Even an average-sized penis is fun. Okay, we can, that's great, We can all deal with that.

Have you ever used? I mean I just small. it's just yeah, I mean it may be proud.

But it's a very when it's an actual finger and it has different capabilities of movement. Like it's different when it's a penis. I'm sorry that happened and I'm glad your grandma didn't die.

No, okay.

Anonymous says hi, ladies. I'm such a big fan of you both. I have a story and, quite frankly, I may belong in the basement. Some may think I'm a hometown hero. Nonetheless.

That's funny.

That is funny, and you're absolutely a hometown hero. I'm obsessed with that. Yeah, that is definition. when we talk about closure. We're always like hoping to have a chat.

For anyone that's a new listener. every week we read stories that listeners send in from their own. You know, horrible dating stories or funny hookup stories, hometown heroes, you know, that's. that's what we just Read off there. So please send yours in, also in a subject line.

Novella. also, I want stories about everything I want to, not even just dating, like let, any crazy story that you think is insane and that we would get a chuckle out Of, or like our community. We're all sitting together listening.

Yeah, it's exactly w-dub-d-d-dub-dub-d-d.

That's exactly what I was gonna say, and also just keeping in mind that it is harder to make friends when you're old. It really is. it's it's just as hard as dating, I would say, if not harder sometimes. but like, for instance, I do live ball, which is a type of tennis, and there's a girl that she doesn't even know you. I'm scoping her because we've been.

yeah, and I think you have to just be a little bit more courageous and bold, and.

Just hate to break it to you. Your new best friend isn't gonna knock on your door and come up to you on the couch and be like we should get to Know each other. you're gonna have to meet them somehow and it's not gonna be on your couch.

yeah, and I think it's just be like oh my god, like. would you ever want to like, go like grab a lunch or go like?

I mean, I'm maybe you wouldn't be surprised by this but people, your age and like our age. There's a lot of people that feel that way. So it's also other people who are looking for you when you're looking for them and you just don't know it. Yeah, so go find him. Brittany says hi, girly pops, love and adore you both and the pod.

I mean, I think there's a lot of pressure sometimes to like define or identify or put a label on your sexuality, and i've never wanted to do that because it just doesn't feel like that to me and obviously like Being married to a guy for a really long time, but there was no pressure to do that. but since i've been like dating but also like I don't, i'm on dating apps and I just tend to like meet people, just being Out and obviously being also like attracted to women. So like, if there's A lady that I meet, i'm like, oh, there's something interesting about this person. maybe it would be going on a date or just like hooking up or something, but I'm, just always down to meet people. that in an organic way regardless.

No, i'm like not dating right now. So i'm very much making an exception. Yeah, and also this is like, um, so we'll see. but in general, I know you're just wanting to hear about our experiences, But I hope that you feel like your queerness is valid, because it is. it doesn't matter that you're dating, you're in a heterosexual relationship.

Yeah, well, I mean.

You are who you are, and it's amazing.

Everything just feels like fail right now, period, regardless of like Who it is. Anyways, carly says hey, girlies. I love you both so much. Now we're getting into my breakup. My ex and I broke up right around christmas.

He's garbage. move on from him immediately. He's.

Like he's just lying. like he, he he's. he has no emotional intelligence or maturity. He cannot be honest. He wants to just like yeah, might be like, oh, he doesn't want to break your heart.

Bye-bye and also keep saying that to yourself over and over. i'm only 22.. You're right, you are, And that doesn't make it any less painful. No, it hurts just the same at any age. but like he, He's showing you who he is.

Always like, always need to remind yourself. moving forward, Pay attention to the way people act, not the things they say. people pay lip service left, right center. They will tell you that they love you. They'll tell you they want to get together.

Right. There you go. Anonymous says hi, katie and dana. My husband has an old co-worker who has the same music taste as him. I'm shameless top 40 r&b pop princess.

I think it can absolutely be a platonic thing And you can just vibe with people and have that in common, and it does not need to reach beyond that. And on his end, it may just be that for sure. But but there's people that take advantage of that and use that as a way to grow close to somebody. and if she starts to share problems and lean on this person and want to like They, become like a safe place for this person, use your woman's intuition. If, if it stinks, it probably is because it stinks, you know.

Like, if it walks like a duck and it talks like a duck and it sounds like a duck. It's probably a duck.

yeah, there's people that I 100% share music with, and i'm also not like Vibing with them on that level at all. And then there's other people that I have musical tastes like that and I also Have had other relationships, you know what I mean? Like, okay. So for me, yeah, it's a gay way.

It's a gateway for me. That is an extremely intimate thing. We've talked about it.

No, that's what I mean. It can be, it can. it can just also be like hey, When you know someone has same taste in you, just be like, oh my god, this song is dope, but it's 100%.

ma'am, honestly, yeah, I think that Can be platonic, but all the other things you're describing this situation don't read platonic to me, Like no, especially if they're saying that's a sexy vibe. Thanks for being my music soulmate. That is super inappropriate. if, For you're married and someone's saying that to your husband is really crazy in my opinion. Yeah, it sounds like this woman is looking for something else, and I think sometimes men can be.

stupid and not read certain things as, like, you know, someone trying to.

I would say is I I? you're not alone. You're not crazy and thinking it's weird. It seems a little weird and use your intuition, Just like our hometown heroes. for anyone that's new, Please send in anything you need advice on.

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