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A hair raise?

Because I feel like you cut it more than twice as more as me, and yet yours is longer, which that's the thing I keep hearing about why you should trim.

Yeah, I feel like we've talked about that's the whole, that's what they tell you. That they trim, so it'll grow. And now we know.

It's so pretty. So mermaid-y.

I do need a cut, though.

Same.

It's time. Yeah. For a little trimming.

I literally, before I left, I just almost impulsively just snapped.

Oh yeah, I forget, you cut your own hair.

Well, but I need to not. I think I need to like see a professional. But it looks good.

Does it? Yeah.

I don't know. It's not great. If you focus on the ends.

Don't focus on the ends. Okay. Never focus on the ends.

Never focus on the ends. Wow, that's a good life lesson.

Only focus on the beginnings. On the beginnings and the whole picture.

The middle and the whole thing. Not just the end.

How are you? I'm good. What's been up?

Everything's great. I feel like I'm one of those people that's boring, because people are like, what's going on with? And I'm like, no drama. Nothing's wrong. I feel at peace.

I'm feeling fine, but I've been bad at our challenge.

Have you even done it once? No. It's okay.

I have to be honest. I haven't.

I feel like that's the meditative thing to do.

Is to be honest.

Acceptance.

Well, no. I still want to do it. It's never too late. I'm going to do it today.

Do you have like a party voice?

It's like a little scratchy.

Right? Like you had a fun time. I did.

I did have a fun time. I don't feel like I was screaming, but maybe I was screaming. I mean, it was 123 degrees in Palm Springs.

Oh my God. I heard.

It was record breaking. So maybe I'm just a bit drained.

Yeah.

Also, I have an update.

Oh God. Positive.

So I got filler.

You did?

Yesterday. It's like a little sore, but I got filler on my chin. Okay. And then he also did some Botox-y stuff. Not for wrinkles, but to help sculpt that area.

Sculpt your cheeks?

My bottom half of my face, which is what I went to him for.

What you wanted. Yes. Okay.

And he was great. I liked him and I like it. Contrapposto Clinic in West Hollywood. His name is Casey Welk. He's great.

And how do you feel?

I feel good. I really like it.

Can you tell?

I can tell. You can tell. Yeah, I know.

I'm like trying to.

Can you tell, or no?

You always look amazing.

Thank you.

I can't tell.

Even when you know? What about my profile?

No. Wow. I mean, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. No, I think that's great.

For me, that's ideal. Right. Is for no one to notice anything other than just like, oh, she looks good.

Yes. You always look good, but you look good now. I'm glad. I mean, so you had been thinking about it.

Yes, I've been thinking about it for a while. I almost got Kybella, as people know about my journey with Kybella. Casey confirmed he didn't think Kybella was for me. So I'm glad I didn't go down that route. And filler, you know, goes away.

What's nitrous? It's like a.

It's like laughing gas.

Cute. Oh, you got laughing gas?

Yes. Except I don't think I was doing it right. It wasn't put on me, like they do at the dentist. Yeah, the movies. They have a machine and you like, take breaths of it when you want it.

Almost like a vape?

Yes, exactly. Exactly. But I was like, I'm not doing it right. I'm not feeling it. Oh.

That feels like it would be the best part.

I know. And then also, I was remembering, like, I could never really like smoke a bong. I've never smoked a cigarette.

You've never smoked a cigarette?

No, in my entire life. And I won't.

That is the most adorable thing I've ever heard. Oh my God. Did you ever like. Want to? Want to?

Yeah, I was around. Say no. No. I just did not want to. That's amazing.

I get that.

And Penn. Once I started cheerleading and stuff, that was definitely like, we were, so, we were on such a regimen.

I mean, should we get into it?

Yeah, but real quick. Okay. So my mattress is on oxygen. Yeah. So I've never been able to do that.

Yeah. Process. You can't inhale. You've never had an inhaler. You've never vaped.

Have I had an inhaler? That's a good question. Not that I remember, but maybe. So I don't know how to inhale.

I feel like that's good. I could teach you, but I feel like that's a bad influence.

How do you do it?

I don't know if I should be spreading the message if people don't.

Well, what if it's for an inhaler? That's important.

I don't know if I also have the right technique. I don't know if I'm doing it right, but I didn't used to inhale when I would smoke weed or like my parents. don't listen to this podcast. My parents are the only people. I wouldn't want them to know this, but I did kind of become a low key, like I smoked slims when I lived in Copenhagen.

Oh, a cigarette.

Yes. So like, and that, when I look back at that time, I'm like, oh my God, I didn't smoke a lot, but I like had. You had a face. That's okay. That's okay.

Was it part of your persona? Who were you being there?

That's a great question. Who are you? Who am I? I was, oh, I'm, that was a chaotic year, like dark from the outside. Maybe no one.

They should have been, because you got hit by a car.

Yes. If I would have been my mom, I would have been too. But it was very formative. Like, it was my first time being on my own. And after the car accident, I was like, I have to re-examine my life.

I don't think the Sync Squad knows about the car accident.

The car accident?

I think you should maybe tell.

So Tim, my really good friend who I was in Copenhagen, with, whose wedding I'm going to in August.

Yes. Congrats, Tim. Yes.

Tim stayed in Copenhagen, literally since we've been there, since we were 19, and is now getting married. So Tim and I were out. We decided to go to Berlin for the weekend on, like a boat. I just remember, like a ferry of sorts. And how old were you?

Obviously drunk, but like drugs?

No, I never did drugs. Maybe there were other people doing drugs. But not to like paint Danish people with like a broad brush, but it is like, you can drink open can, open air, like, and drinking is very much a part of the culture. And so we were just raging and like costumes and like, I don't know, just meeting. It was so fun.

Amends?

Amends?

Amends. Oh, good. Has anyone made amends to me like that? No.

Or like, reached out. now that you're, I don't know, I feel like there's also a thing of once you're more public, people, I don't know, are like, oh, I shouldn't have said that. No. No.

I don't think so. I don't read my DMs.

Oh, that's- That's probably for the best.

No, but that's interesting. I don't think I've made one either. That's probably karmically why no one's made one to me.

No. I mean, maybe you didn't do anything horrible to anybody. No.

Like the little girl who had a big mole. Oh my God.

So bad. But we all made fun of someone with a big mole. I have a person that comes to mind. Maybe I should make amends to her. Oh my God.

Do you think that it's ubiquitous that everyone's made fun of someone with a big mole?

A big mole, someone's weight, you know, it was also the 90s, like-.

I know.

That was fair game. I mean, in a way that I really hope it's not now.

It also came, so it was me and a friend, and it also came back to us. The mom found out, she was the bus driver. This was such a nightmare, and we had to apologize. I think we also first tried to lie to get out of it. How?

What was the lie?

I don't think it, I think there was like no way to get out of it. I think we said somebody else said it, maybe, but we weren't specific about who. Like we, weren't throwing anyone under her mom's bus, but I do think we tried to get out of it. But I remember this extremely uncomfortable conversation with the mom, and I do think we apologized. So that was in the moment.

That's a really good question. I think, depending on how traumatic it was, but you're right, is bringing it up. I think about this all the time, with everything, just with grief or with like, do you bring up the thing that's hard for the person to let them know that you, or do you just-?

Just let it go.

Let it go. And so that they're not-.

They can move on.

They can move on and they're not thinking about it. I mean, I've never had an amend that I didn't appreciate. I had like my bully, the bully that I had to like change schools because of reach out. It was like right. when I started going on like.

I think you're right. It's only positive because even if, yeah, as you say, you're not like, oh, well, let's be best friends now. It provides some optimism for humanity. Like, oh, people have the ability to recognize their wrongdoings and try to make it better. Like that's the best we can do.

And, like everyone's doing it. It's like a way to also connect with others, unfortunately. I remember there were things that I, yeah, people that I laughed at, or things that I, and when I look back, I'm like, I didn't really care about that characteristic, right? Or that thing. But I definitely went along with it in order to be part of the group.

Well, it's also like middle school, high school age, where your social circle is life or death. And if you are just standing there and not laughing or going along with it, you'll be kicked out.

Yeah.

Because then you'll make them feel bad and they don't want that.

And it feels less bad because there's something about it being like, I don't know, probably a behavioral-.

Or it feels objective because everyone's doing it.

And it's obviously not. And the dispersion, is that the word, of responsibility? because it's not a one-on-one thing. You're just kind of one more person. They're already doing it.

It's tough. Okay. So King.

Yes. I met him. So there's this thing called, if there's any Danish people listening, festihalm, basically like festival, which is the Danish Halloween. I can't remember what it is, but it's not on Halloween. And just everyone dresses up full on costumes everywhere.

And you love costumes.

I love costumes.

Everyone knows this about you.

I don't know why I'm bringing this up, because I met him not even on that holiday, but he was fully dressed as a king out, just at a bar. And his friend was dressed as a cow, which again, so my type, immediately we're hanging out. And so I met him that night, and then we found each other on Facebook. And then it just is that core relationship in your 20s that devastates you and just rips you apart. And he was just emotionally unavailable.

Talk about life ruiner.

100%.

But also so fun and so aspirational.

How different do you think the world would be if there wasn't that show? If she had chosen Hayden. Oh my God. How many of us would have made different choices?

That's a great philosophical question. I love that. Did you like Aiden? I did. Me too.

What did you think about Big?

This is my pattern. I realized, and this is like Friday Night Light, all of these shows where there's, like a quote, bad boy, which in this case Big is the bad boy, weirdly, but I never liked them. at first. I'm very clear that they're bad and toxic, and I can see it. And so I'm not attracted to that at all.

Okay. I saw like a controversial post that was like, he's not a golden retriever. He's just dumb.

Well, duh.

That's what that means. I know. But I feel like people aren't being honest. I'm not being honest about it.

Well, I'm probably going to get in trouble because I said that. To me, that's been obvious, because what we're saying is they don't push back really. And they're just there to like, cuddle and be kind. But I think if you are a smart person, smart means so many things, by the way. But I think if you are a smart person and a thoughtful person, you do have opinions, you do push back, you engage in a way that a golden retriever does not.

So it gives you the egg.

Golden retriever is not for me. That's like, I actually don't want just someone to sit there. I mean, I do love hair play, so I would love if they did hair play on me, but I want engagement. I want challenge. That's, to me, the only reason of having a partner.

To be challenged. No.

There's a trust and a love, but I don't want complacency at all. And I don't want to be pacified. Of course I want support, but not blanketly, no. For me, because I just don't need that.

I think the unicorn guys do both, though. Yeah, of course.

That's the goal.

Yes. Because I think the whole black cat, golden retriever thing, I think both are extremes on each end of a spectrum. Yeah. And in a perfect world, the people who have both, like, I saw this, oh my God, it was like the quadrant of dating, but I'm going to do it wrong. It was like the two axes were evil and kind, sorry, smart and then evil.

But who doesn't want that?

What was interesting is then the lower left quadrant is dumb and evil. And they were like, that's sort of like the guys who have narcissistic tendencies, but they're not full psychos because they're not smart enough to manipulate you. And then the evil and smart are like the death. And then it was like guitar players who hate themselves. is what they said.

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That's good math. Honestly, I think that's math for women as well.

Yeah. I think that's just people.

People land in there. I mean, I won't speak for everyone, but I think the goal is to be smart and kind if you can.

Yeah, if you can, as much as possible. Yeah. And those people are great. And sometimes in your life, I think maybe it's not immutable.

So for you, how would you rank? Myself? No. Oh. A partner.

Yeah.

Now, if that's unavailable, what are you picking?

Kind and dumb, for sure. I just don't want, because I've had the two lower ones and it's life-ruining for me. Or I've let it ruin my life.

Well, evil and dumb.

But I prefer evil and dumb.

Over smart and dumb.

Smart and dumb. I mean, smart and evil.

I'm sorry.

Smart and evil. Which one have you encountered the most?

Not for partnerships for me, but in my life, I have a lot of smart and kind. Yeah. Which is very lucky. But yeah, I know. I have smart and evil, for sure.

That's not interesting. At all.

Like, you're not smart, so we're not talking. And you're bad. Like, there's just nothing.

There's no redeemable. Exactly.

For me, at least, smart and evil is. I'm intrigued by how smart they are, minimally. But I would do dumb and kind second. I would, I think.

Because also, you can get smarter.

I'm getting worried. that's not true.

You're going to take evil and smart? Wow. Interesting.

I mean, I don't want that to be true, and I have that ability to choose. But okay, let's say, I think ideally, smart, kind, kind, dumb, evil, dumb, smart, evil. But what my attraction is, is smart, kind first, then smart, evil.

Oh.

Then.

Right. Honestly, maybe.

Really? Maybe evil, dumb. after that. I find evil people psychologically interesting. Like, wow, what's going on?

Yeah, of course. But the smart, evil people are really good at not appearing evil.

That's the lore.

And that's what will ruin your life, because you don't know they're evil. Well, he, no, he was like dumb. He was kind of dumb and dumb. I don't think he was evil. I just think he was like, didn't know, but he was just like a hot 21-year-old guy, you know?

Yeah.

But I've dated, definitely dumb and evil. You have? The person I was dating when we did Race to 35 was evil and smart.

Evil and smart. No, but you just said dumb and...

And then dumb and evil was the one before that. Really? Yeah. He would do manipulative things, but then not be smart enough to cover it up. And so it was deeply unsettling.

And you don't think that was smart?

Maybe it was smart, but no, it was like constantly being lied to, and then him not being smart enough to cover it up. Almost like he would forget that he was lying, and so he would just say things that were, I don't know. It was, I'd never experienced something like that. It was very disorienting.

Yes.

I think maybe there are times in your life where you're dumb and evil. Of course. Right? Or you're smart and evil. And you can move through the quadrants, I hope, all of us, and maybe they're in a different place now.

Only because you've said it three times, so now I do feel the need, say it again?

Oh. Quadrant? Is it qui-drant?

Quadrant.

Quadrant. Yeah. Okay. Quadrant.

Quad. Quad.

Oh, quadrant. Yeah. Okay.

Quad means four. And it means this muscle.

And it means like a dorm, doesn't it? Like the quads? Oh. Or like a place? Yeah.

I think a quad sounds college-y, dorm. Or like a common area, the quad.

Yeah, like in college.

But it also means four. In high school, we had a group of friends. It was four of us, and we were called the quad. Oh, that's cute.

It was really cute. Was it for girls?

Mm-hmm.

That's adorable.

Okay, sorry. So back to the accident.

Oh, God.

King was a part of the accident?

No, I mean, he was just part of that era of just like, I'm dating this guy who, it's those stories of like, I remember once literally settling for hooking up with him and then him, like me, out drunk and being like, I'm coming over, and then getting to his house, and he does not answer. Oh. And then, two days later, it's like, sorry, my phone died. Oh. Like, truly the most, and then I probably still wanted to be with him.

Oh, yum.

It was great. So I was thinking about that, and nothing else. Oh my gosh. And then one thing leads to another, and I literally get hit by this flower van that was out, I guess, that morning. I am on the ground.

Do you have any memory of what it felt like?

Not really. Like, I didn't see it. Just suddenly I was on the ground, and then I guess the guys who I'd met at the party heard the accident, and so they came back. One of them hugged me or something, and I was crying in this guy's arm. So I did stand up.

Southern American accent?

Southern American accent. Oh, my God. He's like, you had a fun night. So gay. It was so funny and weird.

Oh, my God.

Best part of this story is healthcare, like, the German system, and just anything that's not America. Thank you. And I went back to work. Like, maybe I took a few days, and then we, like, boarded this ferry back to Copenhagen, I guess. Maybe to a bus to Copenhagen.

Oh, yeah, you're on vacation this whole time.

Well, no, I'm living in Copenhagen, but yes, we were just in Berlin for the weekend. Right. In, like, a youth hostel. And then we're on this ferry of sorts with, like, a bunch of families. There was a buffet, and we stole the buffet money.

That's so interesting because the way you just described it is the way so many addicts describe it. It's like, the first time I drank, I, like, knew this was a feeling I wanted to keep having. And quiet the noise is a very specific way of saying it. But then, by the time I met you, I feel like you drank, but you never—.

Yeah, I think two things happened. One thing was work replaced it for me. So one time, honestly, I moved to New York, and there was so many exciting opportunities. I just worked weekends, and it definitely quieted the noise in a different way. Yes.

Interesting.

Did you ever feel like you had an issue with drinking?

I still wonder a little bit. I mean, not—I don't think the amount is ever problematic, how much I'm drinking in a time. But the frequency can be a little—like, when I really look at it or if I have to answer, like, when the doctor's like, how many drinks per week? Like, then I feel that's a lot. But it is very confusing because, for the most part—I mean, every now and then, no, but I'm very in control.

Yeah.

So that's the thing I have to monitor is when it's transitioned into just like, well, I'm just doing it because I do it, not because I want to have fun or have a glass of wine with pasta.

Yeah, to me, it became clear that, like, when I don't want to do it, I can't not do it. That was the thing for me. It was like, oh, this is a problem, right?

That's interesting.

And so I don't know if you've ever felt that, right? Like, I feel like if you don't want to drink, you don't drink.

Yeah, I don't. And you know. what's also interesting is I don't really drink much at parties. Like, I'll normally have a drink in my hand, and I'll take, like, some sips of it, but I don't like getting drunk at parties. Like, which is where most people feel the need.

You don't?

I don't really need it for that at all. I prefer it in an intimate environment.

Oh, that's so funny. And what does it provide you in an intimate environment? Like, what do you like about it?

There's something, like, ritualistic about it that I think is lovely. Just like, everyone's just sipping on this thing. And I've said this before, but I think for me it plays with time in such a very interesting way where it slows it down and speeds it up in ways I like. So I think that's what it is. Like, when I wasn't drinking, I would be at a place for 30 minutes, and I was like, well, I think it's nice time for me to go home.

When you weren't drinking?

When I wasn't.

Yeah.

It feels like I've been here for five hours, but I've been here for a half hour. Whereas if I'm drinking, time is, like, warped. And I'll be like, oh my god, we've been here for four hours.

Right. That's so fun.

I don't know. I don't know.

It's weird. I know what you mean, though, because I feel that, on a social level. Now that I'm not really drinking, like, if I'm at a social event, time does go slower. You're more alert. You're more conscious.

Yeah, that's a great question.

Turning 37 was, like, harder than other numbers for some reason. And I was like, I'm running out of time, running out of time. And I was like, why don't I make time go slower then? If I'm so worried about time moving fast, like, why don't I slow it down? And not that we can slow down time, but it's all a perception anyways.

Mentality, yeah.

Instead of getting more activated and like, go, go, go, I got to do all these things before time runs out. It's like, why don't I do things more slowly so that time actually passes less fast?

Yeah, that's interesting. I like that.

Because, yeah, time feels out of our hands, obviously. Right, but it's not.

I like the whole package. Oh, fun. Okay, let's do a few questions.

We didn't get to your cheerleader pin.

Oh, my God. We'll come back to it next week. The listeners should watch the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders show so that they're caught up for when we talk about it. Okay. How to get my father-in-law to not call me honey.

Ew. Yeah. What would you do? It's so sad, but I would just, like, suck it up, but I don't think that's the right—.

I agree. I would do the same. Yeah. I would just, like, compartmentalize it and hate it, but I don't think that's the right advice.

Absolutely not. I mean, come up with a new nickname. Like, focus on the positive. Instead of saying what he can't do, create a fun nickname for him to do.

Like, how about this instead?

Yeah. Nicknames can literally just happen from a conversation, so, like, next time you have a conversation, hopefully something comes up where, let's say he's like, you make chocolate cake. Like, oh, why don't you call— Don't let him call you chocolate. That's not better than honey. But, like, yeah, I would give him a new—.

A chocolate cake.

Or, you know what I would do? Definitely, being direct is better, but you could also talk to your partner.

Husband, yeah.

And then say, like, I said, that. I don't feel comfortable, so maybe you can say—.

You can talk to him.

You shouldn't call her honey. Like, I'm unc— Like, not even making it about her, but saying, like, oh, call her something else. Not say that you talk to him or anything like that, but say, like, it's a little weird.

I kind of like that. Also, if you do want to have a direct conversation, you could say, I appreciate so much that you asked me, and it's my fault that I said yes to this. I don't really know why I did that, because it does make me sort of uncomfortable, so can we pick something else? And so, like, you're taking responsibility that you gave permission for this. I think the fear is to create embarrassment for him, because that's uncomfortable for everyone.

Yeah.

And you could say, like, because my dad calls me that, or because John calls me that. You can give a reason, maybe.

100%. And it doesn't have to be real. Yeah. I think all of those options are good. You're not stuck with this.

Oh, God.

And it just happened, which is great. If it had been a year or longer, and he's been calling you this forever, there's no muscle memory. Like, he'll choose a new thing.

Yeah. What's your favorite pet name?

Well, that's such a good question. Well, I've told you this. I've always wanted people to call me Chips, and no one does it. And I'm sad about it. But I like Monkey a lot.

Yeah, that's why.

And no one has really called me Monkey either.

Well, Monkey is, I think, very cute. But maybe no one's done it, because, to me, that's what I would call a kid. Like, I call Delta Monkey. So maybe if it's, like, a romantic partner, that feels a little childlike. Oh, yeah.

But aren't all pet names a little childlike?

I guess so. Yeah. I guess you're right. They are. Huh.

Pudding is also cute. I wouldn't hate Pudding. Wow.

That one's a.

For sure. I mean, Chips is more like... I just want it to be my nickname. It's more of a, like, I just want to be... I want people to refer to me as Chips.

Oof. Okay. I can try.

Your face.

It just doesn't seem natural, but I'll try for you.

Okay. Thanks.

Think to support it by quints. Okay. It's summertime. There are trips happening. Yup.

Affordable. Because, yeah, sometimes when you go on vacation, you're already spending a lot of money on the plane ticket, on the hotel. And you're like, ugh, do I really want to spend a lot more on the wardrobe? But you will find, like, some really, really affordable finds that will make your photos. And, like, it's just more fun to go on vacation when you have these cute little fits.

And you're excited to put on your clothes. Yes. Like, and you kind of feel like a new person. You do.

And I got, I like, like, a staple for the summer. And I got these onesies. I got them in shorts and pant version. And it's just, like, my new summer staple. And it's so comfortable.

I, like, it feels embarrassing to say. No. Kind of.

No, but it's asking for what you want. Yeah.

It's weird that this feels very vulnerable to say. But I like baby.

Okay.

In theory, I like sweetheart a lot. But I don't know if I would like it in practice.

Why? Tell me more.

Because it's so long. Too many syllables, maybe? Really? No, it's not the same amount of syllables.

I don't know why. Is it too sweet for you?

Maybe. Maybe. Sweetheart is too sweet. You're right. It is that.

You want something with a little bit more edge.

Yeah. But I think I want it to be unique to the relationship. Molly and Eric call each other mister. And it's so cute. It's such a cute little pet name.

Yeah.

That they got created somehow. Totally. Out of just some funny conversation or something. I don't know how it happened. But that's the ideal.

For sure. Yeah, I had a pet name for my ex. I called him Little Toast. And it was from a random... But it was from...

And did you call him that full thing? Wow. Because I feel like if I was you and I... There was that funny joke. It's so funny.

Maybe we weren't together long enough for it to evolve.

I'm trying to think of the people around me, what they call each other. Kristen and Dax do a lot of hon and honey. I think Ryan and Amy do a lot of babe. Babe. Yeah.

I really want to focus on that. Yeah.

It is weird.

That's the sweetest. I mean, sweetheart and baby.

I know.

Baby's even more.

I think it is pretty telling. Because I'm strong and I'm independent. I feel fine on my own. And all. that's really true.

Yeah, me too.

And I like feeling safe with someone. And so baby is a little bit of like... A baby is only there to be taken care of. And they need protection. Someone calling you that is like, I'm here to protect you.

Okay.

So I think that's why I like it.

And would you call them baby too? Huh.

Yeah, probably when they're sick.

So it goes both ways.

Yeah. But I don't know that that would be my constant nickname. But it would be in moments of tenderness. I think. You know what I mean?

I do.

I also say love a lot. Like I say that to the girls a ton. Even friends. Like. that's a common one that just pops out of my mouth.

It's so fun to have little pet names.

It is fun. Chips.

Chippies. Chippies. You don't have to do it. It could be a separate one.

I'm going to see how it feels next week. It's cute, because it's you. Chips is very you. But I think it's hard to give yourself one.

It's not how it works. And that's why it hasn't caught on. If I just kind of like, approached it in a different way, but because I've been overt, it's never going to happen. Which is fine. It's fine.

Okay. This one's quick. Necklace with my husband's initial. Cute or tacky? This is from M.

I love it.

I love it too. I think it's really sweet. Also, if you love it and you like the way it feels on your body, who cares what people think? And if they think it's tacky, you don't. Exactly.

And you like it. I have friends who their wedding rings. is their partner's name engraved. It's like a ring that says something. Or, like the ring, is the letters of each other's names.

Interesting.

And I think that's so cute. He has like a Lisa ring. It's so sweet.

That's sweet. Also, do you know there's a common trend for a while that has the partner's fingerprint on the inside of the wedding band? Which I think is very sweet.

It's so fun.

It is fun.

Do whatever you want. You're in love. I know. Do whatever the fuck you want.

Enjoy it. I agree.

Yeah. Didn't Travis Kelce have Taylor's initials? He showed up with a bowling doubt. Oh, really? Taylor Swift.

Oh.

And whatever. The timing, maybe is not on purpose. Oh, wow. Around that time.

Okay. It's interesting timing. But for them, they could just do T. It's also them.

It's so perfect.

I know. T and T.

You know, their one year anniversary is really close to Sync's one year anniversary.

Oh, my god. Of course.

Of course it is. It all just happens.

I wonder what they're going to do for it. If they're going to do what paper thing they're going to do for each other.

Right.

Because we have to do a paper thing. Okay. We do. For next week, right?

Oh god. Okay. We have to do a gift out of paper.

Yeah. But we're going to ask people. Yeah. To give us ideas. But yeah, I think we should do a gift out of paper.

They're just jealous. Probably.

Probably. Yeah. I am. That sounds lovely.

It's so cute.

Yeah. Okay. Let's do one more. Haven't received an invite to one of my best friend's weddings. This is from Vicky.

Yeah.

My guess is, if you know that, save the dates went out, yeah, you're probably not invited. And I understand wanting to know what, well, first of all, I wish you wouldn't talk about it in front of you. That's not that nice. But also, maybe there's a reason that she can't know. We don't know the details, but my hope would be that what he said is probably true.

I think so too. Again, as a person who's not been to a lot of weddings, but from an outsider's perspective, 99% of weddings are about money. That's my perception that the decisions, even I was struggling. I had two weddings this summer and I just couldn't afford to go to both of them. And so I was riddled with anxiety about having to tell, or just, I felt that it was such a rejection or an emotional, like.

There are so many.

Basically, like whether you're invited to someone's wedding is not a measure of your friendship, I think. That's healthy. Even though it's totally normal to be hurt when you're expecting something, and that doesn't happen. I mean, for all you know, again, like maybe the wife has jealousy, like not that I'm saying that this is a thing, but to take that decision and to create a reason that you've made up in your head is just going to cause you... Make you upset.

Yeah. Like make peace with that.

Yeah, make peace with it. Yeah. Again, it's really easy to say this, but like to not take this personally and to like create a meaning that's a story you've created in your mind based on the information that you have. That's probably not true. Yeah.

I agree. Okay. Well, I think that's it for today. Yay. We will be back next week.