Rebel Wilson: Dating Fails to Finding the One (FBF) [VIDEO]

I almost, like, crushed my finger in that.

I don't know of anybody else who's called their baby that. And so, I was like, we have quite unique names in my family. My niece is called Sovereign. And so, I was just like, oh, yeah, Royce sounds good. And then, I told my family, and they're like, no, that's a shit name.

My mom sends me a list of 50 other names, starting with R, like Raven or other things. And I'm like, no. For some reason, I just like Royce, so that's going to be her name.

So, I grew up knowing my name was Rebel, but on my birth certificate was Melanie Elizabeth. But as soon as I was an adult, I was like, well, now I'm going by Rebel. And it kind of worked out. Like, it. obviously wasn't that I wanted a stage name or anything, but it was like, oh, that's my name, and that's what I'll start using as an adult.

And it just.

. I don't know. Yeah. But it's weird. Only people that have known me since childhood would call me Mel sometimes, and it freaks me out now.

Love. Over to Rebel. And then it kind of worked out, because I was only a law student at that time. So it worked out that I became an actress and have a cool name.

And for some reason, I was in the cool group. So I get... I start my new high school, and I get in the cool group. And I was like, oh, my God. Oh, my God.

Like, how did I even do this? And then, like the girls say, we're going to go smoke behind the gym. So are you coming or what? And I'm like, oh, I don't smoke. Because, like, I didn't know what else to say.

I didn't smoke. And so they kicked me out of the group. And then all the other little groups, I went to an all-girls school, and all the other groups had formed.

So, and like literally like they'll sit in a little circle in a quadrangle and, you know, a bit like Gossip Girl or whatever. But all the other groups, there was no room in the circles. They'd already made their own little circles. So everyone had a group except for me. And so I had to, my first year of high school, every day I went to the library, had my lunch just by myself, because all the other groups had formed and I had no group.

now. And I mean, but for three days I was living it up in the cool group. Being like, oh, they're like, how did she get in the cool group? Whatever. And I was just like, you know.

But then I get kicked out and had zero friends for the whole year. And then, luckily, the next year of high school, these other girls go, oh, meet us at the language labs at lunch. And I'm like, what, are they going to try to beat me up or something? I was like so scared. And then I come and then they had all these candies and stuff.

And they're like, surprise. And it was my birthday. And I was like, how the hell they know that? And then they'd thrown me a surprise birthday party lunch as a way to say we would like you in our group. And then that's how I got my first group of friends at high school.

The group thing was like the cliques like in Mean Girls and stuff. Like. it was very much a thing.

So I went from. I know what it's like to be so unpopular that you literally have no friends and just are like so depressed. And to being like the most popular. and my sweet 16th birthday party had a busload of gatecrashers from a whole other school that, like just heard the party was going to be super cool and like come. It was like the police had to come like four times.

It was like one of those parties you see in movies that, like, turns into a total nightmare. Like for me, it was because I thought the house was going to get burnt down or some shit. But my 16th was just like the most popular thing. So I know what it's like to have be on both sides of the fence of popularity.

And then, by junior year, I was like I am like thriving, Miss Popular. So I felt the difference between lifestyles.

My mom was like I had a tooth up in the roof of my mouth.

That's probably a great visual. And then anyway, my mom decides she's going to get in a hospital and they're going to put a chain up on the tooth, to drag the chain to the tooth slowly to position. So I'm like got this chain inside my mouth. I'm like the dorkiest girl at the start of high school. I know.

They could have just removed the tooth.

And so how we met the boys was that we did theatre productions and that was our only interaction with the boys. So I was like, hell, yeah, I'm going to audition and going to be in the shows. And he was the stage manager at the boys' school. And then so he was my first little boyfriend. And then what happened is I went on a family holiday to Disneyland and then he kissed one of my friends at a party.

So I was like. Peter. God damn it. It's over with. Although I feel like I dumped him, but I looked back at my diaries recently and apparently he kind of just said he wanted to be friends with me and showed me that by kissing one of my other friends.

But it was such a big deal at the time, because by that point I was very popular, and so all the girls had to come to me on the first day of school, when I got back from school holidays and say, oh, Peter kissed Leanna. And I was just like, oh, that's it. then. He's dumped. I tried to be tough, but I was really upset by it.

And then I think I wrote him a handwritten letter. Classic. Yeah, because this was before cell phones or anything. Of course. And then it was just over with.

And then I was like, that's it. Boys are trouble. I'm never going to. Do it again. I'm just going to have a career.

I always knew I wanted to have a great career and I wanted to live overseas and do all this stuff with my life. And I was like, yeah, boys are a distraction. Fuck them. And I'm not. Yeah, because it wasn't a great first experience.

But weirdly, I never was upset with my friend that had kissed him. Oh, that was your direct friend? Yeah, she was in my group.

Did you have any childhood or teenage experiences that heavily impacted the way that you feel around the idea of falling in love?

I never saw any good marriages or happy people in relationships. So I think, and then my mom was like, yeah, go out into the world and have a career. So like, don't be like me. She had me at 24 and she was like just get out there. So I basically put like blinders, like horse blinders, on myself and was like, okay, I'm going to go to college.

I'm going to have a career. I'm going to make a name for myself. I'm going to make money. And I was like no love, no relationships, because it will only bring me pain. And I know now that that's not true, but as a teenager witnessing like what happened to my parents, I was like, oh, I don't want that.

So I literally went on not one date. It was only really when I became a successful Hollywood actress that I started kind of softening. Yeah. But before that I was kind of like, I guess like Olympic athletes, how they have this focus, because to make it in the entertainment industry is really hard, especially when you're like no one from Australia and you come over here. So I just had to have like these blinders on and was like.

I thought that if I was in a relationship or something, it just wouldn't help me as a person to have a career.

I found them the other day. That's why I was like looking at them. I love those. And I was like, holy shit, like I was such a loser. But it's just like.

but then the thing is, it worked. Like, I mean, I had to be very focused on my career to make it. The odds of making it, it's so small, and it really did work. And maybe if I'd found the love of my life at 25, maybe I wouldn't have ever come to Hollywood and I would never have made it in that bigger way. So it kind of worked, but I sacrificed and I didn't have really any social life or love life.

And then I was playing kind of like the fat funny friend. as an actress. I was like never the love interest or never like. and so I just kind of thought in my real life that I was a great friend to people. And like, if I'd meet guys or whatever, you know, like, they'd think I was hilarious and like want to hang out as a friend.

But I did always. I think that, oh, well, they'd never romantically like me because I was so overweight, which is totally the wrong way to think about it. I just wasn't loving myself. But I think it's hard to explain sometimes because I can be so body positive and confident in some ways. But the one way where I wasn't was in my love life.

I don't know. I was just like people say there's a thing called chubby chases or whatever. I never experienced anything like that. being a bigger girl. I only experienced where people were like, oh, you know, they just want to be my friend.

Got it. Or I'd think I'd go on a date, and then it was like, oh, no, it was just to hang out because you're fun and cool. But, yeah.

And I looked at the script and I'm like, oh, what's she talking about? And then I read it and I was like, no, Fat Amy, I think, is like the best character in the whole movie. Like, of course I'd love to play it. And so it really didn't offend, I guess, no, it's not. It was like to me that was kind of distinctive about the character and I love playing her like so much.

And, like, we had the best fun on Pitch Perfect movies, and to me, like it was just awesome to play her because she's just so confident and ballsy and I have, like part of it is me, like a lot of the Pitch Perfect is not really acting. It's kind of just like us hanging out. But, like, but then there was another part of me who wasn't confident and definitely wasn't confident around guys and was like, oh, God.

because I love those roles. Like, I mean, I love doing the roles. I love those characters. But then I did want to do more things. but I felt like, yeah, being the bigger girl, you're just more pigeonholed.

And then, as I was approaching 40, I was like,

oh, well, and really it came down to like a fertility thing. I went to see a fertility doctor and he was like, well, you'd have a much better chance with fertility if you were healthier. And I was like, oh, God, what's he talking about? Because my life was like a Lizzo song where I'm like, you know, bad bitch, all that stuff. Like.

that was my life. And then I've got this stranger saying, yeah, but you're not healthy. Look at you. And then it really hit me hard, because I was living a fantastic, bigger life and then didn't have any serious diseases or anything. And I was like, oh, shit.

And then that made me kind of re-examine. I was like, well, yeah, if I think about it, I'm doing things that aren't healthy. And because, you know, I didn't have a great love life, so I was normally like at home at night, you know, just eating ice cream and eating chocolate or whatever,

which was comforting at the time, but it wasn't like a great move overall. And so I, just like slowly as I was turning 40, then became healthier.

But, yeah, but I was 35 and basically one of my other bellas, Hannah Mae Lee, had set me up with this guy, Pitch Perfect 2 had just come out, and I was just like and he was just so confident and lovely, and that was my first like serious relation. We were like, you know, he met my family and all that stuff and it looked very serious at the time. And then, yeah, so it was, yeah, but that's late. I know. A lot of people would say like, well, I don't know, 17,, 18..

Nobody, it's not like I advertise this, so the people in prisons would be like writing to me. But I just, I told my friends and then I was like, okay, it's whoever, and Carly, like. we went to Aspen to kick start it, right? So the first day, January 1st, four dates, like back to back. And we were like, the concierge is probably like, what the hell is going on.

in that hotel room in Aspen? There's four dudes she's with? And I was like, that's how I roll. So we started off strong and I actually went on about, probably dated about 50 people in that one year, because I felt like I needed, and it was true intentions, like I wanted to find love. It's not like I was trying to use people or anything.

I was trying to find love and I was trying to make up for lost time and just go out on these dates. So I got very good at going on dates and you have some funny stories like people, because sometimes on the dating apps, you never know with people, but you've got to give it a go and try.

You've got to get a blowout. It's a lot. And then, because sometimes you go on the date and then you can tell within the first minute, like this is not a thing, but I'm such a polite person I'm going to sit through the whole dinner for like two hours and be like, yeah, yeah, tell me more about your cat or something like, and then I just like, because you're polite and they've put in the effort to come and you're like, and then you just go home sad.

And then never heard from him again. And I was like, did he just go on the date because he wanted to take a photo of dipping me kind of with a rose in my mouth? It was so weird. Did the photo ever resurface? No.

I don't know what he did with the photo.

But I was trying to think, well, one where, like you think, the guy's normal height? and then I met him and he was quite small and it just would have looked weird. It wasn't for you. Yeah, it wasn't. It wasn't for me.

And so I was just like, oh, but I tried for the two hours to have a nice conversation with him. And then you just feel like you've wasted a whole Saturday night and you're like, oh, gosh.

And I did meet some awesome people.

He's not putting in the effort, that's it. And then I dumped him and then he was quite shocked, quite a good-looking guy. And then I was like, well, you didn't put in the effort and if you're not – but I would never have known that.

And I know I was like a big, successful movie star, but you still struggle with like, oh, well, maybe I just meant to be people's friends all my life or, you know, never supposed to find that one person and that connection. that's amazing.

. Like, I did then start to – you do for a hot second go, but then I had the opposite of a guy who came to a premiere and had a panic attack because of the kind of attention and I had the opposite. So where the fame was a hindrance to him wanting to date me. But the majority of the time you find dudes would kind of like it. Right.

And yes, that time. I can't believe. I forgot about that.

Yes. Yes, no, that one actually. But that wasn't – I wasn't in a relationship. It was just communicating.

When I asked my friend Matthew, he goes, oh, you know, you were thinking of the castle when you hadn't even bought the land yet. And I was like, yeah, you're right, you're right. I was thinking ahead, thinking this was going to be something. And then, yeah, and then I was let down. But that was that hurt.

And as a person in the public eyes, I'm not going to say who it was, but I was like, yeah, so I was just like, oh. But, you know, I was investing a lot, texting every day.

And I was like, oh, who's this Ramona? And then he, like, introduced us, but we had this like immediate connection on, like the voice text. Like I heard her voice and I was like, oh, yeah, that's sexy. But then I was like, okay, I'm not going to make the same mistake. I'm going to go and meet her.

And I flew from Australia just to meet her.

To confirm, was this your first relationship with a woman?

And especially on the dating apps and stuff like where they're like, oh, you have to tick what you are or something. And I didn't like that. Right.

So like. there were definitely signs. And I'd kissed a woman in a film, a lovely French actress, Charlotte Gainsbourg, who's so classy and French. I'd kissed her about six months earlier. And that was how you see it, that there's like an opening.

We've had a few friends who have kissed women in TV shows or movies and then kind of went into a same-sex relationship.

Yeah. So it was just a part of my personality. I never quite explored. Yeah. And then it kind of, I think, having a few little things happen and then meeting Ramona, I was just open to it.

I was still a bit scared, like because it was different to dating guys. Of course. But then it was just like, oh, she was just so awesome. And we just had such a good deep connection like right from the get-go. So I was like, aw.

You shouldn't have to. No. So we weren't hiding it. We were just slowly telling people and our families and stuff. And I wanted to make sure it was a really real thing before I told certain people.

And then so, yeah, but then these journalists threatened to out us in Australia. And so I had to do an Instagram post to make it, because I didn't want him to, it's not his story to tell it. It's mine. And so I was like, well, screw you. I'm just going to put it on the internet then, which was probably, I was probably close to doing it anyway.

Yeah. But it just kind of sped it up. And I remember my mum had to go around to my grandparents' house in the middle of the night to tell them so that they didn't find out on Instagram, because they would have felt out of the loop. And I got two grandparents in their 90s. And so that was pretty funny in hindsight.

I go, oh, I'm dating her. And she's like, oh, and Ramona's a woman? I'm like, yeah. And you're dating her? And I go, yeah.

She's like, oh, that's great, darling. Like literally not a second of, I don't know. I didn't, you don't know? sometimes. You can see your parents are cool with gay people and whatever, but you don't know until you actually tell them, as the daughter, oh, I am now in a same-sex relationship.

You don't know how they're going to react. But it was nothing, oh, my God, my family was so supportive. Ramona's family, they're a bit even more, they come from like Eastern European countries, so they're not as accepting. But hopefully it'll turn around. So, you know, but my family was like, they were so awesome.

And they come in because they come over for the Super Bowl. And then I was like, so you're meeting somebody tomorrow, Ramona, and I'm dating her, blah, blah, blah. But like, because they were the first people, family members, I told. And, God, it was awkward. And luckily they just said, oh, that's great, you know, like they didn't care.

But you feel like it's such a big deal. And I don't know why. it's because it's not like with straight people. they have to talk about their sexuality or whatever. Like I.

never, when I was dating guys, never had to have that conversation like, hey, guys, I'm dating this guy. And, yeah, so it was just, I don't know, like it's. I really, I understand how hard it is for people, and especially if you come from a conservative family like I have, like, how hard it is to do it. But I was met with nothing but love and positivity by it. So I was like, oh, and it was so nice.

Like, it was so, so nice. And I think the best thing is just to live your authentic life. and, like, you know, I do see people in the industry, you know, hiding who they are in public and stuff. And I just was like the moment I met Ramona and I knew it was a real thing and we were slowly telling people. But, yeah, that whole, yeah, I just didn't want to hide it.

I thought, oh, God, it's 2022. now. Like, you know, you can just be whoever.

And then she made me like wait in one room while she decorated the whole house. And like she had a whole menu of activities for Valentine's Day. Like I've never had that. Me neither. Like a whole menu of like activities and things.

and she brought all the decorations. Like it was the most romantic thing ever. And I was always saying with dudes, oh, they're not romantic. Like I put in effort and try to do nice things and they never do nice things. And then he was somebody that, just like, blew me away with how thoughtful and kind she was and caring.

And I was like that was insane. It was like the best Valentine's Day I've ever had.

But I didn't want to because I had an experience where it didn't work out and we had a miscarriage with the first surrogate. And so with the second one, I wanted to wait until, like the first trimester was over. But this was like literally a few months into dating Ramona and I have to say, oh, God, I'm having a baby. And I know this is something that you didn't know. And so if it's too much for you and you want to leave me, like, I totally understand.

I kind of said it with a sad face on. If you want to leave me, like you can. And she was just so great about it and was like, oh, my God, like. I adore you and I'm going to adore your baby probably even more. And so she was so great.

I wonder whether it was a dude if they would have been that accepting of a child that wasn't their biological child. And I do think, God, maybe it was fate and I was meant to meet her then. And then Ramona was right there at the birth of the baby. She wasn't originally supposed to. It was just going to be me in the room.

And then we're like, oh, well, Ramona's here. Like, oh, yeah, okay, come. And we watched the baby pop out together.

But I feel like I was in such a place like ready and I've been trying for a few years to have a baby. And so like she's just my little miracle, little Rosie, and she's just so cute. But it's so hard. Like to all the mums out there watching, like it is so hard. I like yesterday I don't think I put on clothes till 4 p.m.

I was just in my nightgown walking around with the baby. I get so feral on some days. I mean obviously I'm put together today because I've come to talk to you. But I was like it's really hard. Like it's hard.

I have to probably be more discerning about what jobs I take now. But I was so in a place, I was so ready and so stable, have such a good life that I'm ready to like give a lot to my child now. But it's such a blessing but it's so hard.

And then there's so many studies that, like there was one study in 2020 with Gen Z saying that 48% of people in Gen Z identify as being sexually fluid. I was like okay, it's got to be it. I'm going to like create an app with my friends, call it Fluid, and it's where you don't have to categorize or describe either yourself or what you're interested in. The app just learns by how you vibe with people and what you like, the profiles you like and stuff, and it will learn kind of what your preferences are, without you having to say, oh, I'm bisexual, I'm pansexual, I'm straight, I'm this. You don't have to say.

It's just. you're open to love and you can get on there without any labels or judgment and find a match.

Yeah, and normally I was the kind of person who was like so sad on Valentine's Day and going oh, I have no love. I'd buy myself flowers. I did that in high school, once. You did? I bought myself, like, you know, with an anonymous card, and then I walked around all the other girls with my bunch of flowers going.

oh, somebody's like really attracted to me, like an idiot. I love it. But I guess, you know, I'm in such an awesome place now, and so creating Fluid was just like to create something that I didn't feel existed and to help other people find love in however form that will be, which is awesome. I have one more question. Okay, yeah.

Hello.

Sort of British. Hello.

I play bass in Oasis. And she's Australian. She's not even from England, but I don't know how to do.

Like that's my impersonation of Adam.

Like. It is it. And then he does these dance moves all the time. He does this a lot. And he does the man splits, which he's freakily flexible.

And he does the splits. But his voice, I don't know. Hey, guys. No. I sound like a South Park character.

Hey, guys.

Yeah. But he normally does these faces and he does this a lot. Like that. He does that.

And it was like I can't go on my first fucking date to Australia. No. Although, like Ben, looked beautiful and it looked like it could be promising.