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ever since I heard you say this

that's, Mmm, probably the greatest gift I've ever been given, Such promise and potential. and you got up that one time and the next time you got up. But then you didn't and you quit on your dreams, you quit on your family, you quit on your potential, You quit on your emotions in your, your memories, and so many people, Unfortunately, have quit, and my message would be you could still get up. It's not too late. I Quit getting up because I was scared.

I was scared. I wasn't enough. I Was scared. This was too big for me. I was scared of what what other people were gonna think about me, and I was more afraid.

Then I loved my family, then I loved the people around me and I gave into my fears. rather than embracing the love and I don't want that to ever happen I want, when my life ends, for me to go. I love the people around me enough to keep getting up. That that love was bigger than how afraid I was. and I think what ends up happening if we don't get there someday?

We don't have the emotions. We we deserve to have, the memories We deserve to have, the life we deserve to have. it will be because we were afraid and in and more, I've become familiar with your work. We're afraid we're not worthy enough. We're afraid we're just not worth it, and I don't want that to happen.

So I just remind myself that my love for the people around me is greater than how afraid I am. Yeah, and they're worth it. Full chills like full chills is that when you see a really happy family, or even like a rich family, Somewhere back in their lineage. They weren't? they weren't until the one shows up.

and in every family There's a one, There's the one, and that one person changes a family lineage forever. and in my family I'm the one my dad set the table, but the change he made by getting sober, but I'm the one who got up early. I'm the one who everyone thought was crazy, that everyone criticized. I'm the one who stopped hiding, to quote you in plain sight, like the hits. I'm the one who people rejected.

I'm the one who had to carry the emotional burden of changing our family. And it's so worth it because my nieces and nephews, they don't think like I thought when I grew up. They've got dreams and ambitions and they believe in themselves, and they're good people and they contribute, And I'm proud of the fact. and so, if you're listening to this, if it even affects you at all Just a little bit in your body, get a little butterflies or a little bit of emotion, or even if you think it's not me, That means it is you. You're the one.

you are the one in your family. You're vibrated a very low frequency when you think negatively of yourself And when you don't believe good things about yourself, or when you're acting in a way That's not congruent with who you really are. And so in a moment you can decide. I'm gonna operate in truth. And the truth is, you were born to do something great with your life.

All of you are. you were born to do something awesome with your life, in big ways and small ways. That is the truth. That is the truth. And so now we're operating at a high frequency level.

This is like breakthrough.

Who you spend time around is so important, as energy is Contagious, and so is self-belief, and I'd love to hang out with you even more, Especially if you could use an extra dose of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter. That's also a love letter to you, Delivered straight to your inbox each and every Tuesday morning from me. If you haven't signed up to make sure that you get it each week, Just go to Jamie Kern Lima comm to make sure you're on the list and you'll get your one-on-one with Jamie weekly newsletter and get ready to believe in you. if you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some Inspiration, some tips, tools, joy and love hitting your inbox. I'm your girl.

Subscribe at Jamie Kern Lima comm or in the link in the show notes. in life, You don't sort the level of your hopes and dreams. You stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. when you build your self-worth, You change your entire life, and that's exactly why I wrote my new book worthy, How to believe you are enough and transform your life for you. if you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill, worthy is for you in Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps that bring life-changing Results, like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back.

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Jamie Kern Lima.

Jamie, you're so inspiring, Jamie Kern Lima.

He's been named the top performance and mindset coach in the world by USA Today. He's a renowned global entrepreneur, a best-selling author, host of the Ed my let's show, Which is now one of the fastest growing and most successful podcasts on the planet. He goes from sharing hardcore winning life and business strategies with his millions of followers online To having full-out conversations with his three Pomeranians, Daisy, Lily and Rose, on Instagram. He is one of the very few people on the planet I call when I need to be reminded of the greatness that's in me. on the days I am tempted to forget it, and today he is going to ignite the greatness that is in you.

He is one of my dear friends and today he's here to be one of yours. I am so excited for this episode and my let welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima show.

Can you talk about what you call the power of one more?

that was the first time I ever heard that before and I remember saying, daddy, like, what would be any different this time? you you've tried before, and he said because this time I'm gonna do It because I love you, and I'd never. it makes me. I don't know why he'd do it to me. I Don't remember ever hearing my dad say that prior to that time ever, And he got emotional.

and I got emotional. and he said I'm gonna try one more time. And then, when he went away and he came back, I said daddy, Are you never? are you never gonna drink again? And he said I can't promise you that, Eddie.

what I can promise you is I'm not gonna drink for one more day at a time, and Those days stacked up for the remaining 35 years of his life. He never had another drink. So what I learned out of that was two things. One was the power of trying something one more time and the value of that. The other thing I learned for people that are going through those things is my dad linked that effort to love, Because love is greater than your fears.

It's the one thing in your life that's greater than your fears or your emotions or the setbacks. Love is the greatest gift we have in our life, and the power of how much he loved me and our family Was greater than his addiction. and if you can begin to link these Difficult times you have to the love you have for another person, or even your pet, like your Pomeranians like me, then you've got a superpower in you. and When we don't have that linkage is when we're weaker. And if you think about a good person a good person, you usually won't do a whole lot for yourself, But you'll do a whole lot for people that you love, you'll.

usually most good people will do more for people that they love and that they care about than they ever would for themselves. and So, if you're that type of person, If you're gonna find your way out of whatever Situation, you've got to link it to the people that you love and make your greatest effort on their behalf. And that's what my dad did, with one more Yeah, and I worked. it worked. Yeah, we're here today because of it.

The other thing I learned is interesting. I know I've told you this privately, but the other thing we do as human beings is we discount ourselves. You know, we we think. well, I'm not qualified to help other people, because you know, I've got this mistake I've made. or I've been divorced, or I've always been average and ordinary.

Why would I ever do something great with my life? you know, and I think we do that we use our Failures as weapons against ourselves, or even our sins and our mistakes, and I know I've done that before. So after I wrote the power of one more something, it literally changed my existence. I Woke up one night my wife Christiana, and I was crying. She was babe.

What's wrong? I said someone helped dad. Someone helped dad. She's what my dad. father already passed away.

I'd already written the book. She was what I said, I never, I Never thought about this. someone helped dad when he was gonna take his own life. Someone helped my dad get sober. My dad's life changed because some precious human being stepped forward and said I Can help you, I Can help you, and that person doesn't know it.

but they changed my life. the ripple effect of helping one human being, one person in your life, that power of one more person you help is Magnificent and they don't know whoever they are, That I'm his son and I've been blessed to reach millions of people that act of helping this one man And my dad was gonna take his life. This one man, in his time of greatest need, Changed my life and changed a lot of other people's lives. and Mike says like, wow, that's amazing. I said that's not even the most amazing part.

The most amazing part of it is what qualified whoever this person is to help my dad, because I didn't know who they were at the time. She said I don't know. I said well, it wasn't that they were perfect or how smart they were, how amazing they've been in life. what qualified them Was at one time, they were an alcoholic. They were a drug addict.

They were lying. They were living in the shadows, they were ashamed, and Actually, that's what helped them connect with my dad, because, as you know, we have a mutual friend who talks about this all the time. but you're most qualified in your life to help the person you used to be, and So, ironically, God uses your mistakes or your averageness, Whatever you think it is, to qualify you to help other people that are just like you. And so that's the. that's the extension of the power of one more.

that man. I found out who he is now Changed my entire life, and he didn't know it just because he stepped forward and was qualified to help my dad. and that Qualification was his mistakes, not as perfection.

God can use your pain Right for good. Yes, and and can you talk about that? because a lot of people are searching for their purpose and you think about how This one person helped your dad, who then, yeah?

But what I keep reminding myself is the cool part about it is, once this is over, I get another version of me out of it and that lesson that I'll learn God's going to use for me to qualify with somebody else is going to go through some form of pain. So I really look at pain much differently in life as it can. I don't want it in my life. I would prefer to not have any, but I'm also a realist after 52 years. like I look at a pattern in my life, I go through painful things, and so do most people, and I think your relationship with it, or your belief about what it means, can change everything and give you the.

Give you the faith, give you the confidence, give you the strength to persevere through pain, and I I It breaks my heart that most people don't understand if they were to look back at their life. most of the beautiful experience of their life came after something painful, and So I would just recommend anybody. if you're going through it right now, My prayer for you is that you have the wisdom to know. it's temporary. This soon will pass.

this too will pass, but on the other side of it There's a gift waiting for you if you look for it.

Yeah, I think about this all the time. Can you share this? because listen up everybody? Well, I do too. I think about it all the time, too.

So to me when you pass away, I mean in my faith is a Christian. I believe all I really want is the Lord to go. Hey, well done, good and faithful servant, get your butt in here. You know, that's, that's what I want. But having said that, whatever your faith is.

I Think that you meet who you could have been. Hmm, I think you get introduced to the ultimate version of you.

I say max out your life. I want to become that person and to me, heaven, a Form of heaven for me, would be that when I get there. We're identical twins. I say, man, I've been chasing you all my life, all my life. I've been chasing you and for the ultimate, me to look back.

go, man. I was watching you and you know what? You fell down that one time. I don't know if you're gonna get up, man. You blew it in that chapter.

You completely screwed that one up, but you know what you kept getting up. You kept getting up. you kept getting up and learning that lesson and improving and growing, and then you'd have another setback. And then you thought you had it figured out, and then you don't, and you know what you got here. You did it.

You did it. You maxed out your life. You had all the emotions. You're supposed to experience. You made all the memories.

you made the difference in the world. You felt and lived life the way you were supposed to, the way you were born born to have it, and for me, that's heaven. Hell would be the reverse, which is. I get there and we're total strangers That at some point he goes. I saw you and you had such promise and potential, and you got up that one time and the next time you got up, but then you didn't and You quit on your dreams, you quit on your family, you quit on your potential, you quit on your emotions and your, your memories.

and so Many people I'm, unfortunately, have quit and my message would be you could still get up. It's not too late, right? It's not too late, because it to me would be hell to go. We're total strangers. and when I look at that version of me where I don't get there.

I Pictured the ultimate me saying to me. I've never said this to you before, but lately I've been picturing the ultimate me going. Ed What happened? What happened, and I know what the answer would be if I don't become me. I know what would have held me back and what I would have said was and this is why your work with worthy is So profound.

by the way, what I would have said is I quit getting up because I was scared. I Was scared. I wasn't enough. I was squared this scared. This was too big for me.

I was scared about what other people were gonna think about me, and I was more afraid. Then I loved my family, then I loved the people around me and I gave into my fears rather than embracing the love, and I don't want that to ever happen. I want, when my life ends, for me to go. I love the people around me enough to keep getting up That that love was bigger than how afraid I was. and I think what ends up happening if we don't get there someday?

We don't have the emotions. We we deserve to have the memories. We deserve to have the life We deserve to have. it will be because we were afraid. and in and more I become familiar with your work.

We're afraid, we're not worthy enough. We're afraid, we're just not worth it, and I don't want that to happen. So I just remind myself that my love for the people around me is greater than how afraid I am. Yeah, and they're worth it.

When I was a little boy, Papa was the person that made me feel special. And what I would say to people listening or watching is, when you were a little boy or a little girl, Hopefully there was like that one person that when they would look at you And if you, if you did have that person, picture their face right now Just when, when you were with them, they made you feel special, Like you were born to do something great with your life. You just felt something about you when you were around them, and For me, it was my papa. He would. he wasn't my dad at that time.

It was his dad. I remember my grandfather would. Papa would pick me up on Sundays, We'd go get doughnuts for all my cousins before we'd go to church, and he had this blue van, And he would pick me up, and he's this big man to me, you know. And I would look at him as a little boy sitting in the seat. finally, He let me sit in this passenger seat next to him.

He was funny. He'd drive by people and honk and just wave at total strangers, and I thought Papa knew everybody. But but he would look at me and he'd go, Eddie, You were born to do something great with your life. You're the special one. You're awesome.

I go. I am big pup because you are. you're my favorite, And he would always tell me it was. I was his favorite. He had all these grandkids.

I was the oldest one, and every time another grandkid was born. You'll get a kick out of this. I remember vividly. He called me one time. He goes.

I was eight. He goes. he goes. Eddie, your cousin Peter was born today. He's amazing.

He's got our blue eyes. I said he does Papa. He goes. he's incredible. six pounds, seven ounces.

He goes. he's awesome. I go. That's great. He goes, but You're my favorite, And he made me feel special.

For most of us, maybe was a coach or a teacher, or an auntie or a grandparent, or our mom or our dad. What I would just say to you about if they made you feel that way, you probably even get emotional when you think about them If they're gone, especially. what I would just tell you is They were right. They were right If you had that person. they were right about you and maybe the rest of the world hasn't recognized it yet and treated you that way.

But they knew, they knew, and if you have that person in your life. Honor them with who you become. if they're here, do it so they can be proud of you, And if they're gone, honor them with a man or woman you're changing into. because in my case, I'll remind myself, Papa was right. Papa was right, and even looking at that picture of him just an hour ago as I was coming up here, Just it made me feel something.

and so, by the way, The cool thing about life is you could be that person and other people's lives if you wanted to be. you could be their Papa By giving them the gift of your belief in them, And then they then then you're contributing to people's worthiness by being that person. That's sort of what you and I, kind of in a microcosm, try to do with our own lives. It's not that complicated to be me or you. I just love and believe in people And I try to find things in them that they know, to be true about them and to let them know That's why they're worthy.

That's why they're amazing. It's not that complicated to be that person. Mm-hmm.

it kind of makes me feel like that's my purpose. and you said something really important earlier That you and I talk about privately all the time. If you're looking for your purpose, you said it earlier It's probably somewhere buried in some pain you've been through Right, like in your case. The way you inspire people about their their worthiness comes because there was so much of your life where you didn't feel that There's so many experiences you've had overcoming Really difficult times, even if you had progress, like when you were building your cosmetics company. and people connect and relate to you Because, not just because you're this amazing soul, but because you found your purpose and all that pain you went through.

Yes, or that they don't fit in When in fact they might be the one yes in their family, can you share this idea? Because I know it is gonna speak to someone's soul today. There's so much more coming up in this episode. You are not gonna want to miss it. But first I wanted to share this with you in life You don't sort the level of your hopes and dreams.

you stay stuck at the level of your self-worth. When you build your self-worth, you change your entire life, and that's exactly why I wrote my new book worthy How to believe you are enough and transform your life for you. if you have some self-doubt to destroy and a destiny to fulfill. worthy is for you in Worthy, you'll learn proven tools and simple steps that bring life-changing Results, like how to get unstuck from the things holding you back. build unshakable self-love, Unlearn the lies that lead to self-doubt and embrace the truths that wake up worthiness.

overcome limiting beliefs and imposter syndrome. Achieve your hopes and dreams by believing you are worthy of them and so much more. Are you ready to unleash your greatness and step into the person you were born to be? imagine a life with zero self-doubt and Unshakable self-worth. get your copy of worthy plus some amazing Thank you.

bonus gifts for you at worthy book comm or the link in the show notes below. Imagine what you do if you fully Believed in you. it's time to find out with worthy Who you spend time around is so important, as energy is Contagious, and so is self-belief, and I'd love to hang out with you even more, Especially if you could use an extra dose of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter. That's also a love letter to you, Delivered straight to your inbox each and every Tuesday morning from me. If you haven't signed up, to make sure that you get it each week, Just go to Jamie Kern Lima comm to make sure you're on the list and you'll get your one-on-one with Jamie weekly newsletter And get ready to believe in you.

If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, Some tips, tools, joy and love, hitting your inbox. I'm your girl. subscribe at Jamie Kern Lima comm or in the link in the show notes, and now more of this incredible conversation together.

Not that my family didn't have joy. I don't want to overcook that, but there was stress, there was angst. if you grew up in a house where there was just that, I Don't know anxiety, right? And I remember like even in our neighborhood, the other kids were kind of afraid of my dad. They could hear my dad yelling, you know, And I remember seeing the other houses where the dad just seemed to chill and calm, and you know.

There's a sense of shame that comes with being a part of a dysfunctional family shame and worry, and.

You know, I know what that's like, and To almost wish I was in another family. Yeah, I remember as a little boy. I had these. I had a couple dreams. I was adopted Which ironically, you were right, but I would have these dreams like I was adopted, but my real family somewhere else, and they're happy.

And so I always wanted to see that these families and what I found out in my life as I got older is that when You see a really happy family, or even like a rich family, somewhere back in their lineage, they weren't. they weren't. until The one shows up, and in every family. There's a one, There's the one. and that one person changes a family lineage forever.

it brings joy and bliss, and peace and faith to a family when it lacked it before, or it brings affluence and wealth and Influence to a family when it lacked it before. and in every family, there's the one, and in my family I'm the one. my dad set the table, but the change he made by getting sober, but I'm the one who got up early. I'm the one who everyone thought was crazy, that everyone criticized. I'm the one who stopped hiding, to quote you in plain sight.

I hid in plain sight. I know exactly what that means when it's in your work. It's one of the most profound things you speak about. I know what it's like to finally go. I'm not gonna hide anymore and I'm not gonna believe that I'm crazy.

And, by the way, I think crazy people rule the world. I think crazy, unusual, weird people are the one, and so I'm the one who got up late. I'm the one who took the hits, I'm the one who people rejected. I'm the one who had to carry the emotional burden of changing our family. and it's so worth it because my nieces and nephews, They don't think like I thought when I grew up.

They've got dreams and ambitions and they believe in themselves, and they're good people and they contribute. and I'm proud of the fact. and so, If you're listening to this, if it even affects you at all, just a little bit in your body, You get a little butterflies or a little bit of emotion. or even if you think it's not me, That means it is you. Mm-hmm.

You're the one. you are the one in your family. and there's this great author named Broderick, and she calls the one. she calls it a generational character, Someone a Transitional character. they transition a family from a family that maybe didn't have faith or bliss, and joy and love and laughter Into one who does a family with.

you know, I'm, the world doesn't have their thumb on the my let family anymore. We're calling the shots now, right? We're gonna get a decent education. our family. We're gonna give to the world.

We're gonna contribute a little bit. The my let's are gonna do something awesome, right? And so if you're listening to this, you can be the one in your family and all it really is is seriously. It's just a shift. you have to jump up and down about it.

It's just a decision. You're one decision away top of the power of one more. you truly are in your life. You are one decision away from completely transforming and changing your life. That's the benchmark.

now. It may not happen that day, but you're one decision away, and usually those decisions aren't made real loudly. It's just a like. for me. It's like a shift.

It's like, you know what? I'm gonna start walking a little different. I'm gonna start talking a little bit different. I'm gonna bow my shoulders back a little bit. You know what?

I'm gonna be the one. I don't know when it's gonna happen, but it's gonna happen and I'm very proud of the fact I mean, there's not a lot of things I'm proud of in my life, But I'm proud of the fact that our family is different now, and if you're listening to this, you're the one. there's not by coincidence. We're talking about this today. It's not by coincidence.

You listen to Jamie, Anyone who's listening to you, and as a part of this amazing show you have now, there's something about their soul that's stirred, That they're like, I think it could be me. I hope it's me. Please, let it be me, and if you have any of that in you, you're special. Not everybody goes through life like that. Not everybody cares.

Not everybody wants to make a difference, and So, if you have that, it's you, It's you. you just need someone to tell you. so we're telling you you're the one. So let's do it. So yeah, that's that's the power of one morning.

It's a power of being the one, the one.

To deciding. you're the one you try to make me cry.

Maybe because it's you, because I know the pain you had as a child, too.

I Only really have two talents.

Truthfully. and But they're, they're good talents, And so one of them is I love people and I connect with people really well, And the other one I'm, as I'm a pretty good communicator. beyond that, I don't bring a whole lot to the table, and but they, they were born out of pain and.

The main one is the pain of When my dad would come home after drinking, And I would, you know, make sure that my mom and my sisters were gonna be safe. And so I would. literally I Would sit by the front door and when my dad would come home, I could tell by the sound of the key made in the lock Whether he was drinking or not. I got to that point where, if it went in really smooth, I've thought okay, we're okay tonight. if it kind of rattled a little bit, dad was probably gonna be in a foul mood, and So I would wait for him to come through the door and I could hear the sound that key made.

and I knew To this day, when I hear a key hit a lock. There's a trigger in me to this day, My hotel I'm staying at right now. I didn't hear the housekeeper come and she was putting the key in the door by the time I heard it, and that even kind of triggers me. and So what would happen is my dad walked through that front door and I would just start immediately reading him What's his tie tied like? what's his body language?

Can I smell any alcohol on him? How's he walking? is his tie tied straight and I began to read with him. I'd be fully present with my dad, and That was the beginning of me being fully present with people. I didn't know that God was using that pain for those years of reading my dad To give me the skill to be somebody who's good in business, at connecting or having a podcast and connecting.

because I'm so connected to people And I loved my dad so much. I wanted him to be okay, And so that part of it is stayed with me forever and it developed me. The main talent that I have in my life is the connection with people and then, once, if I figured out he was drinking, I'd have to talk to change his state. Hey dad. How was your day?

Okay, I'd say well, my day was great. Daddy. It was. what did you do? I got a 93 on my spelling test.

I hit a home run in baseball. Where'd you hit it? and I would change my dad's state by my talking and my Communicating, and my goal was to get him away from the liquor cabinet and over to the couch, because if it was going to the Liquor cabinet, my dad's drink was beef eaters, gin, And I remember just if I could get him away from there. Everything was okay. And what I didn't know was a little boy, as God was using this pain for this little boy that I was going through To develop in me the two traits that I would use to help other people the rest of my life my connecting with people, my ability to communicate.

and so that's that. that's the perfect example of the temporary pain leading to You being the one. and then I think what happened was I just loved my family so much. I had Bert Kreischer on my show recently, Jamie, and this is why it's so important. We're always overcoming our wiring.

as a kid. We still are to this day, and I told Bert we're talking about drinking. and and I said, what kind of a dad are you? and he, you know, He's a humble guy. He says I'm a six out of ten or whatever, and we're talking about his drinking.

He's known for. you know that. and I said, you know that, Bert, the number one thing that my dad's drinking did to me wasn't that I was afraid or that you know, I We were gonna be hurt or anything like that. what it did to me as a little boy is it caused me to worry. I Would worry about my dad.

I would worry. He wasn't gonna make it home. I was worried. He's gonna get in the car accident. Someone was gonna hurt him.

I would worry, and that created this pattern of me of a worrier, and It's I got older and older and older, no matter what happened in my life, I would go back to that pattern of worry and fear over and over again, And so it's a matter of for me, is like for me to be the one I had to escape this worry and fear that I had in my life and once I identify what it was, It allowed me to be the person that changed our family forever. So I.

Can they Make the decision. Mm-hmm to to be the one I could tell you for sure. I know.

And so in a moment you can decide I'm gonna operate in truth. The truth is you were born to do something great with your life. All of you were. you were born to do something awesome with your life, in big ways and small ways. That is the truth.

That is the truth. And so now we're operating at a high frequency level. when you operate at a high frequency level, It's from that position that you can make changes and adjustments in your life. So for me, when I need to make a change, I operate in truth about me. So if I'm going through a difficult time, I'll tell myself the truth.

I'm built for this. I was built for this. I have a powerful God who believes in me. his DNA runs through me. I am built for this and when I begin to tell myself any truth about me man, I vibrated a very high frequency when I'm telling myself lies about me, that I'm weak and Inferior and small and not very smart, and all these things that I learned as a little boy.

Now I'm operating in lies, and that's a very low vibrational frequency and I'm weak. I feel like Superman when I'm telling myself the truth about me, and you will feel like superwoman or superman when you begin to tell yourself the truth about Who you really are. and when you tell yourself the truth about how you really are, you feel it? There's something about you that goes. and here's for me the truth.

The truth isn't that I'm super talented. The truth isn't that I have a super high IQ, but I can tell you this. There's a power to intention. as you know that I talk about this a lot, I don't link my confidence to my abilities, because Wayne Dyer taught me this when I was a young man. Because you know what my abilities may let me down.

my results may let me down, But one thing I know about me my intentions are good. Hmm, I have good intentions. today, before I came over here, you and I both we prayed. I guarantee you. before I got here.

You said a prayer. I know you. I said a prayer as well. My prayer isn't that? I'm amazing.

My prayer is that I connect to my intention. My intention is to help people to serve, to contribute of all of my weaknesses and frailties and mistakes I.

Intuitively believe about me that I'm a good person. I've been with me all my life. I know me. I You couldn't probably convince me. I'm super smart or unbelievably talented, or any of that.

But you could convince me. I'm a good human, and for most people listening to this, You know that about yourself, too. You just don't give yourself any credit for it. There's a power to intention. Listen to me.

There's a power to intention, and when you connect your confidence or your, even your worthiness And you've taught me the difference between confidence and worthiness to your intent You become pretty unstoppable, because that's a truth about you. So the truth about me, As I care, the truth is I want to do good. I don't always do good, but my intentions are good. And so that's such a truth about me. Then I'm superhuman, cuz I'm vibrating at a high frequency because I'm telling myself the truth about me.

So the truth doesn't have to be I'm amazing. I'm super talented. I'm beautiful. I'm this. maybe you don't believe those things about yourself, yet That doesn't matter.

Are you a good person? Are your intentions pure now, when you connect to intent? That's a truth, right? And that's why eventually, I believe, good people win. I just think good people eventually win because they're connected to truth and their intentions.

So for me, it's always comes back to my intentions. right before we did this today in the green room, before you came over And we took our walk together. I just said a quick prayer to myself, reminded myself. I intend to serve. I Intend to serve.

everything will be okay from there.

So many people are in this cycle of self-doubt. yes, and they go. I want to believe I'm enough. I want to believe I'm worthy. Yeah, and I don't know how to.

yes, I don't know how to do it. Mm-hmm, this strategy. Yes, this strategy, Link your worth to your intentions, right? Because when you believe that to be true about yourself, your whole vibration changes raises. you're in your power.

I really have three DS That I. so let's reverse it. if I wanted you to fail, if I was that if you believe in the adversary, Let's say right or just forget. even believe in the adversary of the devil, You just believe in adversity. if I wanted to get you to fail, What would I try to get you to feel?

I'd get you to feel three things. if I want you to fail, if I want You to quit on your dreams. Yeah, okay, quit on your business, quit on your family, quit believing in you. What would I need to get you to feel? one of three or all three DS?

The first thing I try to get you to be is totally discouraged. Because if I can get you discouraged, Discouragement is a weapon of the adversary. So if I can just get you a little failure, a little setback, a little discouraged, I can get you to quit. If that doesn't work, here's what I'm gonna give you. I'm gonna give you a dose of doubt.

Let me just dose you with some doubt. doubt about your abilities. doubt. You're worthy of it. doubt your your Intentions are good, doubt your confidence level, doubt if I can get you doubting.

I got you, or that doesn't work. I'll get you with delusion. Delusion is I get you to believe Things that aren't true. I Get you delusional, or I get you to believe your problem is way bigger than it is. A lot of people, when they have a problem in their life, They start thought stacking it, repeating it over and over and making it bigger.

It becomes a delusion or some little mistake. They've made. they repeat it over and over again. It becomes this delusional, huge thing. so if those are the three things that can take me off of my game, or off of my dream, or off of my Heavenly pursuit to become the man or woman.

I was born to be, I Rid them out of my life. when I see them, I go. I know what this is. This is that whole discouragement thing. They're trying to discourage me.

They're trying to get me to doubt. They're trying to get me to be delusional, and so I look for those things and I identify them when they're there, and then I always Go back to truth. The truth is, God would never want you doubting, God would never want you totally discouraged, and God certainly doesn't want you delusional. So that's a lie. That's a low vibrational frequency.

the truth, which operates at the highest frequency, like we've talked about, Is that you were born to do something great with your life? And if you connect it to your intentions, you're unstoppable.

Correct, but it's not the truth. You feel it in your spirit. And if you're like, okay, but I keep failing, Okay, but everyone's telling me I don't have what it takes and you're saying a, that's a lie and be. When you operate in your truth, whether it is what does God say about you? Whether it's the things, you know to be true or whether it's linking it to your good intentions.

Yes, your good intentions, right?

the Bible talks about where there's. you know, where there is no vision, that people will perish. So I've really thought a lot about that. for most people, I mean they have some kind of vision, Like if you ask the average person or ask anybody, listen to this average person like me. We want to be happy or sad.

What's your vision? They'd say happy, you want to be wealthy or in poverty. They probably say I'd like to be wealthy, You want to be able to contribute and make a difference in your life or not? They probably say I want to contribute, you want great memories in your life, or you don't want any memories. Most people would say I would love some memories in my life What the adversary gets you to do.

or our vision gets murky, is we believe it's further away than it is. We believe it's like 15 20 years from now because we believe it's so far away. We create patterns and behaviors and belief systems that perpetually keep it there and we keep things so far away. But that's a great lie. The truth is, You're one decision away from changing your life.

your one new relationship, your one podcast interview, your one new thought right into one new emotion, One connection away from totally changing your life. But if you believe it's so far away, You may miss the very people around you, the very thoughts around you that could have delivered it for you sooner. So that's another power of one more, is it? It's this close. It may take a while to get there.

But if you always believe it's that far away, that's delusional. It's a delusion, and that delusion will get you to miss everything around you. There's this part of your brain called a reticular activating system that you know I talk about a lot, and what it does is it's a prover. it proves you're right. It gives you things.

it makes you notice, hear, see, feel things in your life That validate your beliefs, So or are important to you. So that's why, like I bought a Tesla a while ago, all of a sudden, after I bought this Tesla, I saw Tesla's all over the road. It drove Christiana crazy, I'd be like three lanes over babe red Tesla. She's like what is wrong with you, right? Tesla?

those Tesla's were always there. Why, all of a sudden, am I see him? everyone's had that experience? I'm seeing them because they're important to me. now, right?

Here's the hook. What if your dreams and your ambitions and you're in your emotions that you want or that become the Tesla's and you? Believe there could be one away? now you see things that were always there that you were oblivious to before, and that's the power of Having a truth in your life and not being delusional. Mm-hmm.

In fact, it is so good We had to do a part two. Here is a sneak peek of what's coming up in episode 2 with Ed my left. I.

And so when I was a little boy, actually when I was a big boy. even now I.

Felt loved if I did something significant, so if I brought home straight A's, Eddie, we're so proud of you or if I hit a home run, Or I got big muscles, or I made hundreds of millions of dollars, or I had an island, or I got a jet, or whatever it was That recognition felt like love.

But it's a reduced version of it, so all my life I've been trying to earn it.

And earn it. and the truth is, I'm just realizing now I.

Don't have to earn it. It's my birthright. God gave it to me. I.

and wow, look at you.

To overcome their limiting beliefs.

That shifted me.

It's their intellect. It's their problem-solving ability, right? It's their resiliency. It's their toughness, It's their faith. It's their strength.

Yeah, I.

I've Done that good. I've done that really good with my kids. I've done that really good with them, and I Would just recommend to everybody if you have a chance to tell another human being about them, tell them God chose you to change the world. That's what kept my head when we were talking today. That's what I was thinking.

It's gonna use you a lot of different ways. It's not just a speaking, It's this too, like you're doing something here, Like. I've never cried like that, and the only time I ever cried in interviews when you interviewed me Only two times ever. but you do, you you. this is you need to do this.

Look everyone's crying in here, by the way.

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